Relationship With Problems

 

There is such a richness in how we can – and do – relate to perceived problems.

These relationships can, more or less informatively, be organized along an line from more dualistic to more transdual views.

At the more dualistic end, I see the situation in itself as a problem and it is happening to me as my human self. I try to fix it “out there” by removing the disturbance or myself from the disturbance. The situation and the problem is completely “other”.

I can also see that how I relate to it is also part of the situation, and work equally on changing it “out there” and “in here”.

I can then take it as an opportunity to turn it into something constructive. I can use it, through for instance lo jong techniques, to deepen compassion, humility and gratitude.

Or I can use it as a reminder for inquiring into beliefs (Byron Katie) or for being with what I am experiencing in the present (Raphael Cushnir) – saying “yes” to the “no”.

I can also allow myself to go with whatever happens, whether it is saying “yes” (being with it) to the “no” (the patterns of resistance to the situation), or saying “no” to the “no” (resistance to the resistance). In other words, I can say “yes” (allow it to be as is) to the “no” to the “no” (resistance to the resistance). Or whatever combination it may be. This is also part of the richness of the human experience. It is part of what makes us human.

Along with all this goes different worldviews. The more transdual approaches goes with a more transdual worldview/experience.

I can see that chaos and breakdown often is generative: it can lead to creativity and reorganization in new, richer and more inclusive ways.

I see that it is all Existence expressing, manifesting and exploring itself in a myriad of ways. Whatever arises is “meaningful” in itself, as it is.

I see that it all emerges from the same source: the mysterious Absolute, distinct from the world of phenomena.

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