Here is something that has been clear to me for a long time, and which is an ongoing process in terms of living it.
When something is a clear “yes”, it is beyond doubt. There is no need to think about and deliberate it. For me, this was the case with everything in my life that has been deeply meaningful and nurturing, most recently Breema and the deekshas.
When something does not have this quality of an immediate and full “yes” without any doubt, it can be a “maybe” but even this is really a “no”. It is something that is not essential. It can be left out and leave space for something else.
Aligning myself with this makes it simple. Struggling with it, not being sincere with what is coming up as a clear “yes” or not, makes life very complicated.