During the housemate woes over the last week, I have had opportunity to look at how we all deal with difficult situations.
I am fortunate in this situation in that I am one of the owners of the house (am in a situation of power and not the one loosing my place of dwelling), and that I have worked with various ways of dealing with difficult situations in the past.
This verse from the New Testament came to mind again…
For I say unto you, That unto every one which hath shall be given; and from him that hath not, even that he hath shall be taken away from him.
Those who already have shall be given, and for those with little, even that will be taken away from them.
This is only too true in a human sense.
Those who have inner and outer resources are able to deal with difficult situation in a more effective way. These situations become ways to mature and grow because they are met in a context of inner and outer resources. For these people, it may be true that what doesn’t kill you make you stronger, as Nietzsche said.
For those with less of these resources, similar situations may turn out to be profoundly destructive. For these, what doesn’t kill you may still crush you.
And this is all determined by a throw of the dice. Some are born with genetics and into a family which gives them an upper hand in dealing with life’s challenges. Others are born with the opposite, with a human self and into a situation which makes them far less equiped to deal with what life throws at them.
It seems cruel, both the randomness of it and the lack of fairness. But it is all what is. It is all a current expression of the seamless process of the universe. And in recognizing it, we can at least do what we can to acknowledge the apparent lack of fairness in it and compensate for it, out of wisdom and compassion, and as well as we can.