When there is an identification with any segment of what is, there is the appearance of I and Other and the whole dynamic which emerges from that. And this dynamic includes, quite naturally, a certain lack of trust.
I am an object in a world of innumerable unpredictable objects, so I cannot fully trust the world.
Selflessness and trust
The only way to uncover a deep and unconditional trust is through tasting and ultimately realize selflessness, and deepen into that realization.
As Byron Katie – and mystics from any tradition – say, God is All and God is good. When there is no I there is no Other, and there is nothing to not trust.
Seeing the truth about beliefs
To realize this, we need to see through the belief in the idea of I. This core belief which creates the I-Other appearance. We actually need to see through any and all beliefs. We need to see what is really true for us – in our own immediate experience – about the beliefs.
We can come to see thought and abstraction as what they are – innocent questions about the world. Not accurate or true representations.
As BK says, we come to see – gradually, one inquiry at a time – that reality is always kinder than our stories about it.
A part of this process is to trust truth. Not any abstract and absolute truth, not any permanent truth, not any truth handed over from someone else, not any truth discovered in the future.
Simply what is true for me – first person singular – in the present.
As long as I am identified with any segment of what is, I won’t completely trust my own truth. That too becomes an Other, and something to be suspicious of. And this seems to be even more the case in our western culture, inherently suspicious of nature and the universe.
This is one of the beautiful aspects of Byron Katie’s inquiry process. I gradually, slowly, learn to trust my own truth – what is true for me in my immediate experience.
I see – over and over and in smaller and larger ways – that the truth does indeed set me free. It is the only thing that does. I come to want and seek my truth, because I know the liberation inherent in it. I find courage in the form of a desire for truth and liberation.
Truth vs. shoulds
I also see more clearly the relationship between truth and shoulds.
The various spiritual traditions are full of “shoulds” in the form of ethical guidelines and so on, and these can be very useful. They help us live with less conflict, and also help align us with a future realization of selflessness (they – at their best – reflect how we naturally tend to live when selflessness is realized).
At the same time, when I look into what is true for me in the present, I see that I don’t need any abstract guidelines. The same is found in my own already existing truth, when I only look. So instead of a should, imposed from the outside, it becomes a want emerging from myself.