Some of the ways everything is happening to, for or as me…
If I see myself as an object in the world, and a victim, then things are happening to me.
If I see myself as an object in the world, and what is happening as a guide, a way to learn and mature, then it happens for me.
If I find myself as awakeness – this field of awakeness and form, then everything is happening within, to and as me. And here too, for me at my human level, as a guide, a way to learn and mature.
Whatever happens is a guide for me to find myself in my wholeness as a human being, to develop and mature as a human being, and to notice myself as what I already am, as awakeness.
It can be a guide in many ways.
I can use stress and reactiveness to find a belief, and then inquire into that belief.
I can use it as a starting point for a journey, for instance as they do in Process Work.
Or any of the many other approaches available.
In any case, it helps me find to find what appeared as Other as myself, at my human level, and as awakeness.
And since what happens is always fresh, in a conventional way and since the future and past only happens within a thought, there is always more to explore at human and awakeness levels.