When I do inquiry, I notice a relatively common pattern for myself…
As long as I hold onto a belief around something, my relationship with it in my daily life tends to be relatively stuck. Either that, or I relate to it from reactivity and a sense of compulsiveness.
But when things start moving, when my view is released from rigidity and I am able to see the validity of the turnarounds, when my heart opens, when reactivity shifts to a sense of nurturing fullness, my relationship to the topic of my initial belief tends to move as well.
It brings a sense of freedom into my relationship with it. I am not so stuck in habitual patterns around it.
So for instance, doing an inquiry around not enjoying the bus rides where I live not only helped me release the beliefs around it, but also gave me the freedom to find alternative ways to relate to it in my daily life. I find myself taking the bus less and using other modes of transportation more. And when I am on the bus, I feel more free to shut noise out through headphones and music, making the ride more pleasant for me.
In short, I am more kind to myself, and – maybe ironically – I take my personal preferences more seriously.
Being kind to myself also means taking my personal preferences seriously, but now from more clarity, and not from reactivity and compulsiveness.