Why I am not a fan of MoE


Our best friends are often the ones who contradict our stories, the stories we are familiar with, used to, and sometimes attached to or identified with. It invites us to find the truth in all the reversals, harvest practical insights from each, release identification with any one, and even taste the inherent neutrality of the situation.

Instead of being identified with our familiar stories, needing to defend them as true and against the truth in their reversals, they now become tools of practical value. Instead of missing out of the truth in the reversals, I can harvest nutrients from these truths. The ones I didn’t see earlier because I was too busy attaching to, building up, maintaining and defending my familiar stories.

So when I read “I am usually not a fan of MoE” I thought it would be a great opportunity to explore how this is true for me. In what ways am I not a fan of MoE (this blog)? And in what ways is he not a fan of MoE? And others?

There is gold in each story that come out of those questions.

And as anything else here, it is more universal than just what I can get out of it. Anyone can explore this for themselves, and find their own gold.

A quick way of finding good stories to work with is to ask what am I most ashamed of? What am I most afraid to hear? What am I afraid someone will tell me? Which stories, about me or anything else, do I feel I need to defend against?

I don’t know, yet, what Tom doesn’t like about this blog. But whatever it is, chances are I have thought the same myself. And not knowing specifically what he doesn’t like gives me a good opportunity to project onto him what these stories may be, so I can see my own stories about myself.

(And these stories are not just about me. They are stories everything is filtered through. My wife. My parents. My friends. My teachers. Anyone I hear about or meet. Life itself. The universe. God. Whatever happens gets filtered through these same stories.)

Before I go into my own stories about MoE, what stories do you have about MoE? Don’t hold back if you share them with me (which would be great), I have probably thought it myself. Probably more often than you have 🙂

Feel free to post a comment with any stories about how it would be better if MoE… Or the way you complain about MoE in your own mind. Any advice that comes up. Or when you are not a fan of MoE.

You can then take these stories to inquiry, and see what is, already, more true for you than these stories. Or rather, in addition to these stories, because our familiar ones have truths as well.

Here are some of the stories about MoE that come up for me. Each of these seem true, sometimes.

  • It is too self-absorbed and self-focused, not interested enough in the wider world.
  • It is monomaniac, obsessive, repetitive. Boring.
  • It goes on and on about the same things, and in the same ways.
  • It is too basic. Making a big deal out of simple things.
  • Whatever valuable insights may be there, is often buried in an avalanche of posts and words.
  • I get too absorbed into stories and the fascination of stories.
  • I am reckless in relation to tradition/practices.
  • I trust and rely on my own experience more than tradition/teachers.
  • I play around with teachings to see what is more true for me here now.
  • I don’t engage much w. others on the internet (no real discussions).
  • It is not very well written, not very entertaining, not all that engaging.
  • It is not written with others in mind, to benefit others.
  • I sometimes write from a memory about an experience rather than what is alive here now.
  • I sometimes come from arrogance, smugness, superiority. Want to make the views I am attached to right.
  • Much of it is half-baked. Not explored sincerely and in depth. Even when I can go further, discovering something I haven’t seen yet, I stop with the familiar.
  • It is mostly at green/holistic level, not much integral/second tier. (Must be since I often don’t agree with integral folks, mostly their tone rather than content, and they tell me that those who don’t get it are not at integral. 🙂 )
  • It is not really Buddhist, or Christian, or integral, or anything else.
  • It is sometimes reactive, putting others down and making myself right.
  • I write in a very simple, naive language. It can seem quite immature at times.
  • It often gets very convoluted, which reflects a lack of clarity.
  • I often don’t edit for clarity.
  • Grammar is often not that great.

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6 thoughts to “Why I am not a fan of MoE”

  1. OK, here are mine:

    The writing is too small
    There should be more Work inquiries
    The colors make it hard to read
    There are too many posts (this has just come up for me with something else as well)

    I’m also just noticing how ‘MoE’ is very close to ‘me’ 🙂

    With love,


  2. Yes, great!

    I had the same thoughts about the font size as well when I switched to this theme. I tried changing it, but it messed up the theme, so I went for looks rather than utility…

    I also agree with not enough inquiries. What’s really the point in writing, or thinking, *about* it? The important thing is the practice, the inquiry itself.

    I am also realizing that the blogs I enjoy the most, and the ones I visit most frequently, are the ones just like yours (and yours!). The ones that are very practical, sincere, that do the work (in this case, The Work) right there and then, and allows me to find it in myself as I read it.

  3. Well, that one part of the sentence sounds worse than my entry as a whole:

    “I’m not normally a fan of “Mystery of Existence”, but I give credit where credit is due. His Inquiry: It is better to not filter Buddhism through New Age and Christianity. entry shows the ability to really reflect on a subject. He turns it over in his head, reflects on it. He comes at it from the opposite direction. Nicely done.”

    I like the site design. I, personally, prefer the small font.

    I think that for your (specifically) content to be compelling readers need to have a strong understanding of who you are. I find that a bit of a high bar.

    I would love to hear regular updates on a cause you are passionate about. I have in front of my computer a printed piece of paper that says in large font, “The World is Watching — Free Burma!” Its a reminder to me that being critical of the world around me is as important as being critical of myself.

    Saying all of that without commenting on my own site seems hypocritical, so:
    1) My site has a horrible, default blogger layout.
    2) My site isn’t even original content. Its just, “Hey! Look at this shiny bauble I found.” “Oh look! Another shiny bauble!”
    3) I explore none of my vices and none of my sins on that blog. A casual reader might think that I’ve lived a relatively blameless life and that is not accurate.

  4. Thanks, Tom. Sorry about taking the sentence out of context. It isn’t fair, I know.

    And yes, this blog is missing the world aspect…

    I was actually an activist/community organizer full time for several years (paid!), working mainly with solution oriented sustainability at a local level, working with neighborhoods, businesses, local government, media, educational institutions and so on. I found a great deal of value in The Natural Step and their very pragmatic and comprehensive approach, and have also volunteered with the Northwest Earth Institute for several years.

    I guess I got burnt out about the same time as I started exploring the topics on this blog more, but it is a good reminder. I do want to include more on the important world issues, especially the practical aspects of it, what we can do in our own lives to make a difference.

  5. A quick thought about the readability problems of this blog: try an rss reader, such as Google Reader. That way, it is readable and you don’t have to point your browser here to read the posts.

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