Some experiences are stronger cues for identification than other.
Some experiences come and go, and seem pretty neutral. Other bring in a mild identification. And others again bring in a strong identification. They trigger a sense of drama, separation, being self-conscious, something to defend, and more.
I find it helpful to notice this in daily life, and also ask myself some questions: Which experiences (stories, emotions, situations) are strong cues for me? What happens when they trigger identification? What would happen if there wasn’t identification? What do I fear would happen? How likely is it? What is the story that tells me I should identify with it?
It is also helpful to notice it as it happens, and ask myself is there a choice? Is it possible to chose to not follow the tendency to identify, and see what happens?
I keep noticing how stories, emotions and experiences are – to different extents – taken as cue for identification. Some are weak cues or no cue at all, and some are strong cues.
It can be helpful here to notice a few things: Which ones are the strong cues for me? What happens when they trigger identification? What would happen if they don’t trigger identification? (What do I fear would happen, and how likely is it?) What is the story that tells me it is helpful to identify with it?
It is also helpful to notice it as it happens – and see if there is a choice there. Although there is a habitual pattern of going into identification when these cues come up, does it have to be that way?
I can take it as an experiment and approach it with curiosity.
- some stories/emotions/experiences, taken as cue for identification
- habitual pattern
- see as it happens + that there is an option, don’t have to go into identification (can see as just a story/emotion/content of experience)