Getting familiar with the lack of drama, then curious about how it plays out

 

What I find for myself is that following a shift from confusion to clarity, there is a period of getting familiar with this new clarity followed by a curiosity about how it plays itself out in the world.

I notice it sometimes in how I and others respond to question number 4 in The Work (who would I be without the belief), and also the turnarounds. If there is less familiarity with the shift from confusion to clarity, there is often first a period where the passive expression of that new clarity is emphasized. I may find peace. Clarity. Being OK with or even appreciate the situation. Grateful for it pointing me to the belief and having the opportunity to inquire into it. A release from drama.

Then, as I get more familiar with that clarity, there is often an emphasis on its active expression. I find that I am free to engage from it in daily life, or not, and am curious about how it is to live from it. What is it like to engage without the old drama?How is it to become familiar with engaging from this new place?

So say I have the belief my neighbor shouldn’t play his radio so loudly.

If I am new to the work, or am new to working with this type of belief, I may stay with the passive expression of clarity. I find peace with it. A release from the drama. Appreciate how this situation helped me notice and examine this belief.

Then, as I become more familiar with The Work, or this particular type of belief, I may also include – or emphasize – the active expression of this new clarity. I see that I am free to talk to this neighbor or not, and may be curious about how it is to talk with this neighbor without the drama created by the initial belief. How would it feel, look, unfold? Would the sense of drama come up again, giving me an opportunity to examine it again – or notice other aspects of the initial belief?  How would it be to engage in the world without this drama?

It is of course not always like this. If a situation requires our engagement, our attention will be drawn to that aspect of it right away. And sometimes, it can be good to just rest in the passive aspect of the absence of drama, to deeply feel it.

But in general, it makes perfect sense whenever there is a progression from the passive expression of clarity/lack of drama being in the foreground, to being curious about its active and engaged expression. First, we take time to get familiar with this new lack of drama around a specific situation. Then, we are naturally curious about how it looks when we live from this lack of drama.

Trigger: Watching people new to The Work stay with the passive expressions (which is very understandable) and also notiching the shift for myself from the passive to include the active. Btw: This post is an example of an insight that does not have much practical value, apart from as an anti-dote to the story that people should include both passive/active aspects when they do inquiry.

Drafts…

If there is less familiarity with the shift from confusion to clarity in general (relatively new to The Work), or there is less familiarity with that shift on a particular topic (particular belief knot), there is often first a period of emphasizing the passive aspect of this new clarity. Peace. Clarity. OK with the situation as it is. See how it helped me notice and inquire into the belief.

Outline…

  • getting familiar, then curious about how it plays out
    • familiar with release from belief, release identification out of, clarity
  • first, often rest in it, get familiar with it, the passive side goes into the foreground
  • then, as more familiar with it, the active side goes more into the foreground, how it plays itself out, curious about it.
  • example: noisy neighbor. First, the release, rest in the peace, clarity. Then, curious about how it plays out if interact with the neighbor. (Free to interact + curious about it.)

Initial draft…

This is a pattern I notice in myself and others, although I don’t know how general it is.

It seems that early on when we do The Work, the answers to question 4 (who would I be without the story) and the turnarounds tend to go more in the passive direction. We find a release out of the drama, a sense of clarity and peace, and so on.

Later on, as we get more familiar with what it means to not be caught up in stories, it seems that there is more emphasis on the engagement that comes from this new context of clarity. A freedom to engage or not, and a curiosity about what may come out of it.

For instance, the statement may be my neighbor shouldn’t play his radio so loudly. Initially, the answers to question 4 and the turnaround may go in the direction of finding peace with it, and seeing it as an opportunity to notice and inquire into beliefs. Later on, as we get more familiar with that part of it, the emphasis may be more on seeing it as an opportunity to engage with the neighbor from this new sense of clarity and see what happens.

It makes sense. Initially, we need time to get familiar with the release out of beliefs, and we don’t quite know how it is to live and be engaged from within this new clarity. Then, as we get more familiar with it, there is a natural curiosity about how it is to live from it and be engaged in the world from it.

Initial outline…

  • notice from myself and others as we get more familiar with The Work
    • see especially in how we answer questions no. 4+5 (who would I be without + turnarounds)
    • shift over time, as get more familiar with the process, and also a shift within working on a particular belief cluster
  • go from confusion to clarity, and two phases on how this clarity is expressed
    • first, disengaged, sitting back (OK with=disengaged)
    • then, engaged w/in this new clarity
    • include both: disengaged=released from attaching to the story, drama, engaged=engaged in life within this new context
  • a natural shift, as if need the time to reorient before engaging again w/in that new context of more clarity
    • seem to happen within awakening as well, take time to get familiar with and explore how to live from it (the shifts happening within The Work is a small example)

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