Something else that seems basic when we are more familiar with the terrain, but may be less so in the very beginning…
All of what I write about here – allowing experience, inquiry, gratitude, empathy and so on – is for myself. There is more clarity and invites identification to shift out of stories and identities.
And that release of identification allows for a wider range of stories that I can use as temporary guides for action.
I more easily recognize stories as temporary guides for action. And there is more freedom to use whatever experience, insight, knowledge and kindness is available to me in chosing a story to use as a temporary guide for action in any particular situation.
It may look like yin kindness. Receptive. Empathy. Allowing.
Or it may look more like yang kindness. Cutting. Strict. Clear boundaries.
(To the extent there is a release of identification, there is a freedom in chosing among these stories. Which means that there is often a mix… there may be some release of identification with some stories, yet still identification with other stories.)
Then there is the receptivity in watching for feedback. Learning. Modifying.
I can look for where I am still caught up in beliefs. And I look for ways to act that is a little more skillful in different situations.