Living a lie is painful.
What does it mean to live a lie?
It happens whenever we take a story as true, which covers up what is more true for us. And when we take a story as true, we act as if it is true. We have to live it, we cannot help it.
So taking a story as true is to live a lie. We take our interpretations of something as true, and we act on that lie, either by taking actions that are not clear and kind, or by avoiding actions that would be the more clear and kind way.
And it is painful. Or more correctly, it is suffering. There is inevitably a clash between our stories of what should be (belief) and what is, was or may be, and this creates some version of stress, discomfort, unease or suffering.
And there is tension between what we – somewhere – know to be more true, and our actions in the world, whether we act in ways that create suffering or avoid acting in ways that would be more clear and kind. We create suffering in ourselves, and we act in ways that often trigger suffering in others because of their beliefs. The ripple effects go out far beyond the few we notice.
Sometimes we notice we are living a lie, yet we still live it because we are not clear, we have not investigated the stories thoroughly.
Sometimes we don’t notice it as a lie at all. Our stories of what is true covers it up. But we do notice the discomfort.
And sometimes we notice the discomfort, take it as a pointer to find a belief, investigate that story, find what is more true for us, and allow room for identification with it to fall away, on its own time. And to extent identification falls away, we live from clarity and kindness, at least in that one area of life.
- living a lie
- what it means
- taking a story as true, covers up what is more true for us
- when take a story as true, live it
- so taking a story as true = living a lie
- clash between our stories of what should be (beliefs) and what is, suffering
- sometimes notice it is a lie, yet still live it b/c not clear, not investigated thoroughly
- sometimes don’t notice it as a lie, but do notice the pain
- what it means