When something happens I don’t have a ready explanation for, it is a good opportunity to see my need-to-know mind.
As usual, it is easier to first see this in others. And right now, I can see it in the scramble to figure out what happened to Air France flight 447 where media and bloggers elaborate on a wide range of theories in the absence of any data.
This desire to know is partly very practical. Knowing what happened can help us prevent similar accidents in the future, and that is good. But when I compulsively spin stories in the absence of data, it points to being caught up in beliefs.
From here, I can work with it in several different ways.
How do I relate to the emotions and experiences that comes up for me around it? Do I resist these? What happens when I resist? Can I instead be with these emotions and experiences? Can I allow it, as it is, as if it would never change, with kindness and heart?
I can see if I can find one or more core beliefs. What is one of the core beliefs here, behind the compulsion to know, to have a story and tell myself it is true? A simple one is “I need to know”. What other ones do I find? Why do I feel I need to know? What do I hope to get out of it?
What do I find when I investigate some of those stories, with sincerity? Is it true? What happens when I take it as true? Who am I without it? What are the grain of truths in its turnarounds? What would happen if I lived from one or more of those turnarounds in daily life?
Is there an emotion behind the urge to take that story as true? A core emotion? Do I find fear there? What happens if I resist that fear, does it fuel beliefs? Does it propel me to take I need to know as true? What happens if I allow that fear, as it is, as if it would never change, with heart and kindness?
When I attach to the story of I need to know as true, and when I attach to stories of knowing as true, do I try to escape something? Do I try to escape the fear? Do I try to escape not knowing, recognizing that I really don’t know?
What happens when I try to escape not knowing? Can I allow not knowing? What happens if I allow not knowing?
And the other side of this, do I ever know? Can I really know? What do I take as most certain and obvious? Is it true? Can I know it is true?
I can also explore this further, for instance by noticing how emotions and experiences (including the fear) shows up in each sense field. How do each of them appear in each sense field? What happens when a label or interpretation is put on them, and that label is taken as true? (Do they seem more solid, real, substantial, permanent?) How do each of them appear if I only bring attention to their sensation aspect? What happens when I explore them this way?
Also, can I notice how all drama comes from my own world of images? Can I notice how my own images of the situation, of needing to know, of myself and of the relationships between these create whatever drama is there? What happens when I don’t notice this? What happens when I do notice?
And can I notice the sense of a doer and observer in all of this? How does the doer show up in each sense field? How does the observer show up? Are they content of experience? Are they different from any other content of experience? What happens when I identify with/as the doer or observer? What happens when I recognize them as content of experience, as any other content of experience?
- something happens that we have no redy explanation
- watch the mind, scrambling to get a story together?
- notice emotional quality (fear?), can I allow it, be with it, as is, with kindness and heart?
- how is it to be ok with not knowing?
- does it have practical value to know? if so, can I see it in perspective? just as practical tool?
- something happens, notice how relate to stories about it
- go to ready-made stories?
- take them as true or just practical?
- can’t readily find any stories
- ok with not knowing?
- or scramble to create/find stories to fill in the gap? (white areas of the map)
- dramatic events + magic tricks, two good opportunities to notice the need-to-know mind (how it unfolds, how we relate to)
- go to ready-made stories?
- air france crash
- media: scrambling to know (speculate, focus on the need to find the black box etc.)
- feel that we know, feel more secure (some practical value, but also emotional) (compulsive, in different areas of life for each of us)
- try to escape don’t know
- and also allowing fear as is
- simple cause: a belief I need to know (which I make to look very real for myself)
- I need to know, is it true?
When something happens we don’t have a ready explanation for, it is a good opportunity to see our need-to-know mind.
And as usual, it is easier to first see in other others. For instance, in the scramble to figure out what happened to the Air France flight 447 where media and bloggers elaborated on a wide range of theories even in the absence of any data.
Just now, there is the scramble to figure out what happened with the Air France flight 447. A part of it is purely practical so similar accidents can be prevented in the future. But when we spin stories about what may have happened in the absence of data, and we feel we have to know, it shows the compulsiveness
When something happens I don’t have a ready explanation for, it is a good opportunity to notice how I relate to it.
is a good opportunity to see any movements towards needing to know.
Of course, there is a practical aspect to knowing. It helps us orient and navigate in the world.
But when it becomes compulsive, it shows that I take the story of I need to know as true.
Whenever something happens I don’t have a ready explanation for, it is a good opportunity to notice how I relate to it.
Am I OK with not knowing? Do I