Another aspect of emotions….
Some emotions are reactive and created by beliefs. They come about through friction between a belief and reality, or more accurately through friction between our stories of what should be and what is or may be. In this case they come with some of the other symptoms of being caught up in beliefs, such as tension, stress, unease, sense of separation, sense of having to protect a viewpoint or identity, sense of precariousness, and more.
I can then identify or or more of those beliefs, inquire into them and find what is more true for me, and in that clarity, the belief may soften or fall away. And with it, the reactive emotions soften and fall away as well.
It is not good or bad, not anything to aim for, and really just a side-effect of more clarity around a story, but it does tend to happen and may be good to notice.
In any case, whenever an emotion arises, I can allow it as it is. I can be with it as it is, as if it would never change, and with heart and kindness. I can delve and lean into the emotions, fueling them slightly or more strongly and notice what happens. And I can use the emotions as a driver for action if that seems wise and kind. (This is where personification of the emotions can be helpful, taking their role and speaking from their perspective, and at the same time be receptive to what they have to tell me, as is done in voice dialog and the Big Mind process.)
And I can also see if there is a belief behind the emotion, inquire into this belief, and find what is more true for me.
I find that when beliefs – and their corresponding reactive emotions – soften or fall away, there is often a sense of nurturing fullness instead. There is a sense of reorganization of emotional patterns. And a sense of it all being physically centered in the belly area – from the pelvis cavity to the rib cage and all around. It also seems related or connected to the feminine dark and luminous blackness that I shifted into some while back, and seems to invite such a reorganization. This sense of nurturing fullness supports behavior in a slightly different way, and can easily co-exist with acting from emotions in more sane, mature and wise ways, although they tend to have a different flavor and not be reactive anymore.
Looking at this a little further, emotions seem to have several functions.
In an evolutionary context, it is clear that emotions help drive behavior. We are afraid, so take actions to remove us from danger. We are angry and take action to protect ourselves and the circle of us. We are sad, so look inwards and have a chance to change how we relate to a situation. This is also one way emotions are helpful in our daily life.
Reactive emotions serve as a glue for attention so it goes to the situation and story that trigger these emotions. There is an invitation here to notice the story I take as true and inquire into and find more clarity around this story.
Not the least, emotions give a tremendous richness and fullness to our lives, independent of whether our personality tends to like or dislike whatever emotions come up.
Emotions also color experience, providing an even richer diversity in how we experience life over time and how different people experience any one situation. (Which makes it no longer just one situation.)
- inquire into beliefs, reactive emotions tends to soften or fall away (the ones created by friction between that belief and reality, or our stories about what should be and what is or can be)
- not good or bad, not anything to aim for, but tends to happen
- secondary effects, side effects, no need to focus on it much, but also good to acknowledge
- and when emotions arise, allow it as is, may even delve into it, and may also use it as a driver for action if seems wise and kind + if seems reactive, then find belief behind it and inquire into it