What does it mean when we say we like or dislike someone or a situation, or even love or hate a person or situation?
The most obvious layer is that I love or hate, or like or dislike, how I feel when I am with someone or in a particular situation. It is not about them, but what they bring up in me. And it is not even about what they bring up in me, but what I bring up in myself when I am with them. In particular, what my stories about them brings up in me.
So it is an attraction or aversion to how I feel, to my own experience, and not to the other person or a situation.
The next layer is whether or not I am attached to that like or dislike. And that depends on my stories about it, and whether I believe them or not. Whether I identify with their viewpoint or not.
When I notice that, there may be a shift into – or a noticing of – a real love for the experience. As it is. Indenpendent of content such as attraction, aversion, people, situations, and a sense of me, a doer, or an observer.
So the first layer is the (appearance) of like or dislike of a person or situation.
Then, noticing that this is really a like or dislike of my own experience when I am with that person or in that situation.
And how that like or dislike comes from stories about that person or situation.
And then the difference between taking those stories as true or not, identifying with their viewpoints or not.
And finally, noticing that all this happens within my own world of images.
And that recognzing all of this, as it happens, in real time and immedicay, allows for a noticing (and shifting into) the love for experience that is already here. A real love for experience. An allowing of experience, as it is.
- love how I feel
- love how I feel when I am with someone (not that person)
- aversion & attraction to how I feel, my own experience, not the other person or the situation
- attached or not to aversion & attraction, depending on stories about it + whether believe them or not (identify with their viewpoint)
- then can shift into/notice real love for experience (as it is, independent of content – attraction, aversion, people, situations, wider world, sense of me, I etc.)
- maybe obvious, but good to notice (unwrap the layers)
– love how I feel when I am with someone, interesting to unwrap, allow to unfold
– aversion & attraction to how I feel, my own experience, not the other person or the situation
– where does that come from? what is it dependent on? a story about the person or situation + whether believe in them or not (identify with their viewpoint)
– when notice, can allow experience + inquire into the story, then can shift into/notice real love for experience (as is, independent of content)
– maybe obvious, but good to notice (unwrap the layers)
The next layer is whether I am attached or not to that attraction or aversion, and that also depends on my stories about it and whether I take them as true or not, whether I identify with their viewpoint or not.
And that recognzing all of this, as it happens, in real time and immedicay, allows for a noticing the love for experience that is already here. A real love for experience as it is. A love that allows experience as it is. Already and inevitably here. And when recognized, allowing for a shift in identification out of stories and into this ground of love.
This love can of course be reflected in a feeling or experience, but it is really just the allowing of experience as is, which is always here, and also allows (the appearance of) resistance to experience.