Fear of truth (iv) – fear of not taking a story as true

 

When I take a story as true, I automatically fear truth.

Among other things, I fear what is more true for me than the story. I fear taking the consequences of it.

If I am honest, I know that I don’t know for sure if any story is really true. And there is a fear of seeing that, and especially of living free from a belief.

I fear that without taking the story as true, something terrible would happen.

So I can ask myself what do I fear would happen if I didn’t have that belief? (One of the subquestions in The Work.)

How likely is that?

What is more likely?

I can also investigate the story more thoroughly, for instance by doing a full The Work inquiry on it and its assumptions.

One of my core beliefs is that people shouldn’t be noisy. (It’s a silly belief, but still here.)

When I ask myself if it is true, I see I can’t really know. And that it is just an opinion, just one view. Valid to only a very limited extent. So no, it is not absolutely true.

What do I fear would happen if I didn’t have that belief?

I fear I would be like them! I would be mindlessly noisy, disturbing others.

How likely is that?

Not very likely. I am generally a quiet person. It is my habit to be quiet, and try to be considerate of others in that way. It is not likely to change much even without that belief.

Also, if I were noisy and did disturb others, they could just tell me. I would get feedback as a reminder to be more quiet. That is pretty easy and straightforward. I don’t need the belief.

What is more likely?

That I would continue living as I do and be relatively quiet in general, and also listen to people’s feedback. I would probably be more receptive to people’s feedback!

Underlying assumptions:

It is not OK to disturb others.

It is not OK to give feedback.

It is my peace. (It is a peace belonging to “me” that is disturbed.)

I will be noisy. (Without the belief.)

They won’t like me if I am noisy.

I need them to like me. (Approve of me. Love me.)

Something terrible will happen. (Without the belief.)

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outline….

  • fear of truth
    • fear of letting go of a story as true
    • what do I fear would happen if I didn’t have that belief?

When I take a story as true, I automatically live in fear.

I fear what the story is telling me, especially when it is at odds with reality.

I fear emotions generated by the friction above, because they remind me of that friction. I try to avoid triggering those emotions, and try to distract attention from them when they are there.

And I fear what is more true for me than the story.

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