Ways to work with ruts

 

It is a common experience for all of us:

We get in an emotional state, our thoughts cannot help support it, and we act accordingly.

The three support each other. It starts with a belief, we inevitably feel and act as if the story is true, and we take these feelings and actions as support for our initial belief.

And this is why it may, at times, be unattractive to do what is likely to get us out of the rut. There may be no opening anywhere, or if there is, the belief-induced mood is stronger than our impulse to get out if it.

What are some of the things that may get us out of the rut? It can be many things, such as yoga, tai chi, meditation, healthy food, go for a walk, or dance. Or simply bring our attention to our sensations – such as the breath, allow our experience as is and with compassion, or seeing the situation from another perspective.

And what is the trick to grease the wheels and get unstuck?

For me, two things seem to work.

One is familiarity and habit. The more I engage in the things that helps me get out of the rut, the easier it is to access – even in the midst of strong belief-induced moods. As I get more familiar with allowing experience as is (or notice it is already allowed as is), I am more able to do it in more and more situations. The same with inquiry, or seeing a situation from another perspective. And the same also with gently bringing attention out of stories and to sensations, such as the sensations of the breath at the nostrils.

Another thing that works is small steps. I notice I am in a rut. A part of me wish to get out if it, even if other parts do not. So I can do something very simple to move in the direction of getting out of it, such as making a good cup of tea, watching a funny clip on youtube, go for a brief walk, jump up and down, call a friend, or play with the cat. And when the opening opens a little further, I can take the opportunity to do something more, such as – in my case – a self-Breema exercise. And then something more. Until the mood has changed and there is a sense of more spaciousness and lightness again, and a more friendly attitude towards myself, others, and life. And here, there is a good opportunity to identify and explore further the belief(s) behind the rut.

There are also other ways to work with this. I may use Process Work to see where the process goes and what happens as it unfolds. I may also allow myself to stay in the rut, and even fuel the experience of it (without acting on it) so I can notice more clearly its dynamics and get more familiar with it that way.

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  • a rut
    • emotional state -> beliefs/stories + actions have to align to support it (and other way around)
    • which is why it may, at times, be unattractive to do what will/is likely to get us out of the rut – yoga, breema, tai chi, meditation, healthy food, go for a walk, dance etc.
    • attractor state, needs a push/nudge to shift into another a.s.

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It is a common experience for all of us:

We get in an emotional state, our thoughts cannot help supporting it, and we act on it. And if we look a little closer, we see that it all starts with a belief – or rather a set of beliefs.

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