Clarity looks sane.
And if something I do does not look sane, mature, and healthy in a conventional sense, it is an invitation to find the validity in how it is perceived by others, see if I am coming from a belief, and find what is more honest for me than that belief.
Even if what is honest for me is a little different from conventional views, I can find ways to live from it that still appears sane.
Inspiration: The arrogance of not knowing, a post by Carol Skolnick.
Note: This reminds me of a good way approach The Work and inquiry in general. It is for myself, for me to clean up my act, and nothing others need to hear about. So I do inquiry for myself, and aim at behaving in an as sane and normal way as possible when I am in the world.