Three layers of alright.
The first and most basic is of whatever happens as inherently alright as it is. In immediacy, it is all the play of awareness, of no thing appear as something to itself. Filtered through stories, it is life unfolding. Existence (Earth, Universe, God, Brahman, Big Mind) expressing, exploring and experiencing itself as form in its infinite variety. If something is possible, God is going to go there. I notice this by bringing attention to it, or through practices such as the headless experiments, the Big Mind process, choiceless awareness, or through exploring the sense fields. Anything happening within experience, including a sense of me and I, happens as awareness itself – insubstantial, ephemeral, with layers of images, stories and interpretations on top.
The second layer is at our human level. Whatever happens is alright in some ways. I can always find lessons and ways of growing. I can find ways of relating to whatever happens so it is meaningful and nurturing. I can explore it from different perspectives, including the ones reverse from my habitual ones, and find the validity in each. And I can recognize I don’t know. Good or bad, desirable and undesirable are human constructs. Also, everything has infinite causes. There is no-one to blame. I can use whatever happens to deepen my humanity, find compassion for myself and others, and as motivation to live my life so it benefits myself and others a little more.
The third layer is our conventional one. Something is alright or not according to our conventional views, and these have a great deal of validity as well. I can live and act to the benefit of myself and others, as much as possible. I can live with integrity, aligned with a deep sense of meaning and essential desires and wishes.
Each of these three are facets of one experience, although I can bring one or another into the foreground depending on what seems most helpful. If a situation needs my attention, and in most of my situations in daily life, I’ll focus on the third. If something is stressful or comes up as undigested, whether from the past, present or a possible future, I can use the second one. And whenever I remember, for instance as I lie in bed, go for a walk, or take a break from daily activities, I can explore and notice the first one.
They all go together. The first one helps me recognize that whatever happens is not as solid, substantial, and set in stone as it first may seem, and this makes it easier to engage in the two other ones. The second helps me find other and perhaps more helpful ways of looking at situations in my life, which takes some of the stress out of it, making it easier to do the two other ones. And through the third, I can take care of and hopefully straighten out situations in my life, which in turn makes number two less necessary and frees up attention for number one.
Note: When I write about these things, it is always triggered by a specific situation in my own life. It is ironic that I tend to write about it in a more abstract and technical way when it starts with something that is very much juicy, alive and concrete. When I talk with someone about this, it tends to be more personal and real so I wonder why it tends to come out in a more abstract and impersonal way when I write? Something to look at.
– facets and layers of OK
— all OK as is, existence exploring itself, play of awareness
— ok or not for who we are
— can find silver lining in anything, play w. perspectives etc.
— also, do what feels right, live from integrity, deep sense of meaning, life aligned with essential desires/wishes
Three facets – or layers – of OK.
All is OK as is. It is part of human experience. It is life unfolding. Existence expressing, exploring and experiencing itself in its infinite richness. It”s the play of awareness as form.
Then, for who we are, as human beings in the world, whatever happens is – in some ways – OK. We can always find lessons, ways of growing, finding ways of relating to whatever happens so it is nurturing, explore it from different perspectives and find the validity in each, and recognizing that we don’t know. Good or bad, desirable and undesirable, are human constructs. Everything has infinite causes. We all do our best. I can use it to deepen my humanity, learn, and find compassion for myself and others. This one is best applied to that which we cannot do much about, such as the past, where what we can do is change how we relate to it. It helps us lighten up how we relate to it, and find ways of benefiting from it.
And finally, there is the more ordinary OK where something is OK or not. We can act to make something as OK as possible, to the benefit of ourselves and the wider world. We can live with integrity, aligned with a deep sense of meaning and essential desires and wishes. Or not.
All three are there at once, and which one it is most helpful to bring into the foreground depends on the situation. I often explore the first one when I lie in bed, go for a walk, or take a break during my daily activities. The second one sometimes requires a more active exploration, for instance through The Work. And the third is most appropriate when we need to make choices, actions, and engage in everyday life.
None is more important the others, and which one is most helpful here and now depends on what is asked of us. If something from my past or present feels undigested, it can be helpful to explore it through inquiry. I can recognize whatever happens, including a sense of “I”, as the play of awareness. And I can also find the genuine gifts in it. If a situation in my life needs my attention here and now, the last of the three is obviously most appropriate, perhaps supported by the two first ones. They can give clarity to the third.
Again, it is very basic. Perhaps obvious. And yet, good to notice.