What is love?
When I explore for myself, I find three variations of love.
Attraction and desire is one form of love, although love is perhaps misleading. It can certainly enrich other forms of love, and it can lead to love, but is it love in itself?
Another and more true way to talk about this is to say that when I am with someone, I love how I feel. Seeing it this way, love seems a more appropriate word.
Then there is love through empathy, recognition and well-wishing. As I have love for myself – for this human self – I can extend it to others through recognition. This love can be exclusive or all-inclusive. As I find love for more of myself, my circle of love for others widens and becomes more inclusive. This love may be there independent of feelings and states.
Finally, there is the love that comes from recognizing all as God. This love is independent of feelings, states, and content of experience.
The most beautiful expression of love is perhaps love independent of whether or not we “like” a person. A deep sense of love may be there even if our personality does not like him or her.
And the deepest, most profound, and rich love is perhaps the one where all are there simultaneously. I love how I feel when I am with the person. I love the person in his or her wholeness through recognition and self-love. And there is a recognition of all as God.
- layers of love
- empathy/recognition – self love extended to others
- recognition of all as God – love independent of feelings/states/content of experience
Through love of my own wholeness, there is recognition and love for others. As I find love of more of myself, of this human self and these human experiences, I find love for the same in others, and for the ones expressing or experiencing the same.
Another way to talk about this is as varieties of self-love.
I love how I feel when I connect with him or her.
I love the human wholeness of the other as I love my own human wholeness. As I find love of more of myself, of this human self and these human experiences, I find love for more of others and for more of the human and Earth community.
And recognizing all as God, there is Self-love of all and everything.
When these all come together, I love how I feel when I connect with him or her, I love the human wholeness of the other as I love the human wholeness of myself, and through recognizing all as God, there is Self-love for all and one and whatever happens.