There are many approaches to healing here what I see in the world. It may not “need” healing in an ultimate sense, but wishing for healing is a natural impulse. It feels good and right, and may even reduce suffering for myself and others, and make it a little easier for us to make more wise choices.
I have recently explored ho’oponopono, a new and revised version of an ancient shamanic practice from Hawaii and other pacific islands. I see something in the world that needs healing – coming out of suffering and confusion. I find in myself what creates this, connect with it, and forgive myself for it. I forgive myself for having created the causes that brought this about. One way of doing this is to say I am sorry, I love you, thank you. Or simply, I forgive myself for having created this. Ho’o may sound odd, but it makes immediate intuitive sense to me.
The essence is (a) to take complete responsibility, and (b) invite clearing of what creates suffering and confusion. This is similar to other approaches such as The Work, the Big Mind Process, tonglen, bearing witness, and perhaps even techniques such as TRE if done with the same intention.
Here are some ways of thinking about it:
When I dream, this mind creates everything in the dream. I can then take responsibility for the dream, and forgive myself for creating the suffering and confusion that happens within a dream. Similarly, I can – as a game or experiment – see the world as my dream, and forgive myself for creating confusion and suffering.
Another way is to understand ho’o through projections. The world is a mirror for what’s already right here in me, so if I tell myself something needs healing out there in the world, I can connect with the same right here in myself and forgive myself for it.
The third way of looking at ho’o is Big Mind. The world is a seamless whole, it is the Big I. It doesn’t matter if something is “here” or “there”, all of it is really here, and I can forgive myself for it. As Big Mind appearing as a human self, I can forgive myself for creating this confusion and suffering.
I hear of people killed in Libya because Gadaffi is not inclined to give up power, so I find that in myself – the impulse to be right, to keep power, the suffering it creates, the confusion behind it all, and find forgiveness for myself for it. A friend’s cat is sick, so I find in myself that sickness and forgive myself for creating that sickness. My parents have a strained relationship, so I find in myself what creates that strained relationship (lack of honesty, openness, receptivity, trust), and forgive myself for creating it. As this human self, I create it in my own life and in my relationship with others, and as the Big Self (life, universe, Big Mind, Divine Mind) I create it in my parents, in me, and universally in all or most humans – so I find forgiveness for myself for creating it in all of these ways. And I can continue. For instance, I find here the anger, rage, disappointment, fear and confusion I see in Hitler (kernel), and forgive myself for it.
Something very similar happens through The Work. I see something in the world and tell myself it needs fixing, so I “fix” it here by inquiring into the stories I have about it. Through the turnarounds, I find that I am doing exactly what I see out there (in someone else, life, God). And through the inquiry as a whole, I may find forgiveness and healing. (Of course, sometimes it takes many inquiries on a whole family of thoughts, and sometimes more than one round of inquiry on the same ones.)
The Big Mind process offers a similar opportunity. I find something in the world or me that needs healing, shift into Big Heart, and allow what needs healing (the voice, part) to soak and be held in Big Heart, in compassion and love. I may also find more clarity around the dynamics creating this confusion and suffering, through dialog among voices, I can hold that too in Big Heart.
Bernie Glassman’s bearing witness approach is similar as well. He takes groups to bear witness – for instance to the lives of homeless in New York or the people in Auswitch. They take it in, open their hearts to the experience, allow it all with compassion, and find a greater capacity for bearing witness and holding it in compassion. They bear witness, find it in themselves, and invite in forgiveness and healing for the suffering created by our shared human confusion.
Through tonglen, I take in the confusion and suffering I see in the world, and breathe out clarity and love. As mentioned above under ho’oponopono, there are several ways to understand this. For instance, when I “take in” the confusion and suffering, I connect with what it mirrors that’s already right here, and as I “send out” clarity and love, I recognize the potential for it in everyone.
Similarly to bearing witness, I can allow, welcome and be with whatever comes up in me when I see suffering and confusion in the world. I open my heart to it. Welcome it. Befriend it. Recognize the innocence in it. Allow it to flow through.
Even more simply, I can shift into being it – being the field of experience, as it is, with gentle compassion and love. I shift into noticing I am already it.
This also happens when I do the form of healing that feels most natural and intuitive to me. I find in myself what is going on for the other person – energetically, in the body, in the mind, connect with it, feel it, and invite in healing for it here. This often takes the form of a process that unfolds in the form of images and sensations (energetic, physical) and leads to resolution.
Since I have just started exploring TRE – Trauma/Tension Release Exercises, I can include that here. I see suffering and confusion in the world, and shake here – allowing and supporting a release of the tension. I am one of many relearning how to naturally process and release the tension that we all experience.
All of this is a wonderful way to stay sober and humble. I take responsibility for creating the suffering and confusion I see in the world. I find forgiveness for it. I allow healing of it. I am it all.
I feel like an infant in exploring all of this. I am just beginning to familiarize myself with the terrain, and there is a great deal more to explore, get to know, and find a more mature and nuanced way of relating to. And eventually, I am sure, include and move beyond.
And as the confusion and suffering is shared and universal, this exploration is shared and universal. It happens through many of us, and it is life – the Big I – finding forgiveness for itself through us.
- healing it here
- connect with and forgive in me that which has created the situation (the fears, beliefs, reactiveness, hangups, resistance etc.)
- i forgive myself for creating this – for having created all the causes that brought this about (as the Big I)
- i am sorry, i love you, thank you
- the work – turnarunds, discover i am doing exactly what I complain about in the other person – and the inquiry process helps clarify/heal that dynamic
- big mind process – big heart, allow what needs love to soak in it, the parts/voices that needs it
- bearing witness – bernie glassman
- tong len – breathe in confusion/pain, breathe out love/clarity
- allowing, welcoming – opening my heart to it here now, noticing it flowing through
- being it – shifting into being it, noticing i am it already, with love (the whole field of experience)
- healing the image of the person/situation here now
- finding it in myself – whatever it is in mind and body – and healing it here
- the way i have done healing since my teens, since the initial awakening/opening
- also, what comes up here is universal, shared, often old patterns passed on through generations – heal it here
- all – healing it here, different levels/ways of looking at it
- healing my own inner [whatever/whomever it is]
- one seamless whole (similar to feldenkrais, do it on one side of the body, then transfer to the other side)
– watch movies, news, listen to friends etc. – use ho’o, gratitude, allowing, being it, etc. – allow it all to heal here
To be honest, something feels off when I write this, and there is a simple reason: I am not yet as familiar with this terrain as I would like to, especially when I write it down in this way. But it is a record of what comes up for me now, and that’s a reason in itself. And if it can be a helpful pointer for just one other person, it is more than worth it.
I can find forgiveness for myself for writing it down even if it feels slightly off.
This also happens when I do the form of healing that feels most natural and intuitive to me. I find in myself what is going on for the other person – energetically, in the body, in the mind, connect with it, feel it, and invite in healing for it here. This often takes the form of a process that unfolds in the form of images and sensations (energetic, physical) and leads to resolution. Surprisingly, there is often a shift for the other person when I do this, even if there is not a heavy handed intention there. (I’ll admit there is often an intention for the other person to heal, but I am working on placing all of that back on myself and what’s here.)
All of this is a wonderful way to stay sober and humble. When I see suffering and confusion in the world, it is my suffering and confusion. Through these practices, I am reminded that I cannot pretend separation. It is all happening here. The world is my mirror. What I see out there is also right here. I create the causes of this suffering and confusion in myself – as this human self and as the Big Self. There is no “there”, only here.
I feel like just an infant in exploring all of this. It’s a terrain that I am still just beginning to become familiar with, and there is a great deal more to explore, get to know, mature into, and find a more nuanced view and approach in relation to. And eventually, I am sure, include and move beyond.
And as the confusion and suffering is shared and universal, this exploration is shared and universal. It is all of us exploring and finding forgiveness. It is life finding forgiveness for its itself. It is the Big I finding forgiveness for itself, through us.
– shift into forgiveness, invite in healing