Why beliefs create stress

 

When I experience stress, that stress is an indication that I am mentally battling reality.

I find I battle reality in two ways.

My stories of what should be are at odds with my stories of what is, was, or may be. I believe what is, was, or may be, shouldn’t be. Or what isn’t, wasn’t, or may not be, should have been.

Or my shoulds are at odds with my inner guidance.

In either case, my shoulds – my beliefs, the stories I take as true – are at odds with what’s true for me.

They are at odds with what’s more true for me than my initial belief, or my inner guidance. Or, quite often, both.

So it’s a good thing my beliefs create stress. Stress is my reminder I am caught up in ideas that are not true for me. Stress is a gentle, persistent invitation to take a closer look at what’s going on.

Stress is an invaluable partner and friend.

How does this look in daily life?

Right now, I have a should about not going to a TRE workshop. It is too expensive. I can do it later. But my inner guidance says yes. There is a clear inner YES there, at odds with this should. When I hold onto the should, I experience some discomfort. (Perhaps not so strong in this case, but it is there.) I notice the discomfort and use it as a reminder and guide to look at what’s going on. First, I notice that my should is at odds with my inner guidance. My inner guidance seems clear, and yet, in my thinking, I am not so sure if I should go. Then, I look at which stories I hold as true about going to the event. It’s too expensive. Is it true? Not really. I have the money, and the event is actually quite reasonably priced. It will be OK to go. Is the reverse as or more true? It is not too expensive. Hm. Yes, that’s true. What I get out of it may be very valuable. I do have the money. And it is quite reasonably priced. Who would I be without that belief? Right now, I am excited about going. It feels right. I want to see if they still have openings, and sign up for it. Then the other belief, I can do it later. Do I know that’s true? No. I know I can do it now, but I don’t know about later.

……………..
……………..
……………..
……………..
……………..
……………..

initial draft…..

When I experience stress, that stress is an indication that I am mentally battling reality.

And how do I battle reality? I do so through my beliefs. My stories of what should be are at odds with reality.

This takes two forms.

Either, my stories of what should be are at odds with my stories of what is, was, or may be (or what isn’t, wasn’t, or may not be).

Or my shoulds are at odds with my inner guidance.

In either case, my shoulds (beliefs, stories taken as true) are at odds with what’s true for me. Either what’s more true for me than my initial belief. Or my inner guidance. Or, quite often, both.

…………….

Or what isn’t but should be, what wasn’t but should have been, or what may not be but should be.

……………..

  • why beliefs create stress
    • battling reality
    • a should that is at odds with what is, was, may be (stories of what should be vs. what is) – or is not, was not, may not be
    • a should that is at odds with inner guidance
    • in either case, a should (belief, story taken as true) that is at odds with what’s true for us – what’s more true than the belief and/or the inner guidance

Related posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.