Taboo

 

Taboo – from Tongan tapu or Fijian tabu meaning not allowed, forbidden.

I notice that beliefs come with a taboo. They create a taboo-zone around themselves, and it’s main function is to allow the belief to maintain itself for a little longer.

This taboo has several components.

There is a belief and that something terrible will happen…..

If I question the belief and no longer believe the story.

If I fully allow and welcome the experience, and especially the emotions and discomfort created by the belief.

If the situation that previously triggered the initial belief, no long trigger this belief.

And if I follow my inner guidance and truth, previously checked by the belief.

So in general, there is a taboo against doing anything that may dissolve the belief and of living on the other side of the belief, and a ball of discomfort as soon as I enter this zone.

I have found several things to be helpful here.

The main one is curiosity.

What happens when I take these taboos as solid and real?

What happens when I enter the taboo zone with curiosity?

What happens when I inquire into the main belief? What happens when I inquire into the taboo beliefs? Are they true? Is there validity in their reversals?

What happens when I allow and welcome experience, including the emotions and discomfort triggered by the belief?

How would it be to live from my inner guidance, the one previously checked by my initial belief?

What happens if I allow the overall tension in my body to release? Does it help me with inquiry, allowing, and living from my guidance?

The other one is comfort, finding ways to make the process as comfortable as possible, and even enjoyable and fun.

Through familiarity with this terrain, I find more trust. The more I see that it’s OK to enter and pass through the taboo zone, the more I find comfort in doing it.

I can find mutual support with others interested in these same explorations.

And I can find techniques that helps me ease into these explorations, such as The Work, bringing attention to the breath and heart and allowing emotions and discomfort to flow through, and allowing tension to release through body-centered practices.

Some examples:

I have a belief that something terrible will happen in the future.

This belief is uncomfortable, so I try to avoid thinking about the belief. I avoid taking a closer look at it, and I try to avoid situations reminding me of the future and this belief.

The belief trigger emotions and discomfort, which in turn reminds me of the belief, so I try to avoid triggering these experiences. When they are here, I resist them and try to find ways to not experience them. There is another belief behind this, and it is that something terrible will happen if I allow these experiences. I can’t take it. I won’t function. I will die. (Of course, the reality is that resisting is more likely to make this happen, at least the three first ones.)

My inner guidance may tell me to do something in regards to the future, set something in motion, plant a seed. Since this triggers my beliefs and discomfort about the future, I may try to avoid this inner guidance as well.

So in each of these ways, my initial belief about the future creates a taboo-zone around itself, a zone of discomfort I may try to avoid and enter. Something terrible will happen if I enter this taboo zone.

The reality is quite another and more kind. When I find more clarity around these stories, I see that truth gives a sense of release, clarity and trust, and it allows me to life from my inner guidance. When I allow my experiences, including my discomfort, I find that it is OK. The experiences themselves are fine, it’s through resistance that I create turmoil and problems for myself. And when I am free to follow my inner guidance and truth, I find trust there. That too is OK. It works out. It feels good.

When I notice this taboo, it’s a reminder that beliefs create a taboo, that I can find a gentle way to enter it, that entering and going through the taboo is OK, and that there is a whole other and more open landscape on the other side.

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  • taboo
    • any taboo, a belief that something is taboo, something terrible will happen if….
      • something terrible will happen if i question the belief, if i no longer believe the story
      • something terrible will happen if i allow and welcome experience
      • something terrible will happen if i follow my inner guidance/truth, previously checked by the belief
      • something terrible will happen if the same situation don’t trigger this belief/reactive emotions
    • and any belief creates a taboo around itself, a taboo that helps it maintain itself for a while
    • belief —> taboo, the belief creates a taboo-field around itself
      • belief, reactive emotions, situations triggering belief/reactive emotions – all a ball of discomfort, try to avoid it
      • also, each one has it’s own taboo
        • belief, a story that seems true, so taboo to question it
          • if like the belief, hold onto it, fuel it
          • if don’t like what it says, then may try to avoid thinking about it, avoid being reminded
        • emotions, discomfort – try to avoid experiencing it, distraction, avoid triggers
        • situations triggering the belief/discomfort – try to avoid that too
        • inner guidance/truth opposed to the belief, try to avoid since opposed to the belief – the belief tells me i shouldn’t act on the guidance/truth
      • try to avoid triggering it, thinking about it, being reminded of it, experiencing it
      • so a “taboo field” is created around it, we make it into a taboo for ourselves
    • question, curiosity
      • what happens when i take it as a taboo?
      • what happens when i welcome it, go into it?
        • welcome, be the experience – breath, heart, stay with breath/heart, allow to flow through
        • write down, inquire into the belief
        • release the tension in the body
        • live from the truth, follow inner guidance/truth
    • make it as comfortable as possible
      • familiarity —> trust, new habits, increased capacity
      • mutual support
      • ease into it, find comfortable techniques

– any taboo, a belief that something is taboo, something terrible will happen if….

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  • taboo
    • belief —-> taboo
      • belief –> reactive emotions, a story that seems true, experience/live as if it is true, don’t follow inner guidance/truth if it goes against the belief
      • avoid experiencing the reactions, avoid examining the story, avoid whatever reminds us of it (discomfort) – becomes a taboo for us, discomfort
      • a “field” around the belief – taboo-field, discomfort if get too close
      • protects the belief, helps maintain it
    • investigation
      • what happens when i take the taboo as solid, real? what happens when i take it as a taboo?
      • what happens when I allow it, welcome it, go into it?
        • allow/welcome/be the experience
        • inquire into the belief
        • release tension in the body (TRE, Breema, yoga, tai chi etc.)
        • live from the truth, follow inner guidance/truth
    • make it as comfortable as possible, trust, familiarity
      • familiarity —-> trust
      • mutual support
      • ease into it, find comfortable techniques

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– taboo-field around the belief
— belief, reactive emotions, situations triggering belief/reactive emotions – all a ball of discomfort, try to avoid it
— try to avoid triggering it, thinking about it, being reminded of it, experiencing it
— so a “taboo field” is created around it, we make it into a taboo for ourselves

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I notice that beliefs sometimes come with taboos: A taboo against finding what’s more true than the belief. A taboo against allowing experiencing the emotions and distress created by the belief. A taboo against acting on inner guidance and truth that goes against the belief. And sometimes, if the belief comes with too much discomfort, a taboo against situations triggering the belief.

The overall taboo is a taboo against anything that may allow the belief to dissolve, and the main function of these taboos is to allow the belief to maintain itself a little longer.

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