Kindness

 

So this is the only thing that was missing, even here…..  Before there was so much – for all of us – keen awareness, a lot of keen awareness and discernment, but here what was missing was the kindness. So as soon as this benevolence was starting to express itself inside, then everything came to rest, because that is the elixir. You can have a lot of wisdom, but without the heart of wisdom, things are still restless and unsatisfied.
– Pamela Wilson (4:30-5:30)

That seems true for me now as well. What’s missing – and asked for – is kindness. How is it to meet what’s surfacing – thoughts, emotions, resistance – with kindness? How is it to meet what’s most unloved and apparently most unlovable in me with kindness?

That’s all that’s needed.

And yet, some other questions may at times be helpful. For instance, I may think that kindness is not here, or that it needs to be big.

Is it true kindness is not already here?

Is it true it needs to be big?

And I can also ask myself….

What happens when there is a closed heart? What do I find? How do I live from a closed heart? Does my mind close too? What happens with my belly? My body?

What happens when there is an open heart? How do I live my life from here? What happens with my mind? My belly? My body?

Note: In recent conversations with Todd and Berry they both suggested that what’s needed now is a shift into kindness. And then YouTube recommended this video for me.

Note 2: It’s implied, but just to clarify. What I find most helpful right now is (a) meet whatever surfaces – thoughts, emotions, pain, confusion, joy – with kindness, and then (b) gently inquire into recurrent stressful thoughts… is it true?

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  • add a dash of kindness
    • identification = defense = closed heart = closed mind
    • open heart, kindness – towards anything happening, any emotions, thought, memory, fear
    • inquiry, insight etc. can be very helpful, but in itself a bit dry if not also heart
    • insight and kindness, two sides of the same coin, two wings on the bird- open mind = open heart, open heart = open mind
      • insight – inquiry, dynamics, etc.
      • kindness – all innocent, all already love, mirror and one
    • kindness – can be simple, already here – is it true it’s not already here? is it true it needs to be big?
    • also….
      • open heart = open mind = open belly
      • belly – trust, reorganization of emotions, deep trust – in life, oneself, whatever is here, felt-sense trust,
    • ……

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What happens when there is a closed heart? There is a closed mind. Identification. Defense. Something – a thought, an emotion, a memory – can become an enemy. Hardness. Tension. Knowing.

What happens when there is an open heart? There is a softness. Receptivity. An open mind. Curiosity.

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And how is it to meet any shoulds around this with kindness? There is a thought that I should have an open heart. How is it to meet this with kindness?

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And how is it to meet what comes up in me around this with kindness? There is a thought that I should have an open heart. Or that I don’t have an open heart. Or that my heart is not open enough. How is it to meet this too with kindness?

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That seems true for me now as well. What’s missing – and asked for – is kindness. How is it to meet what’s surfacing – thoughts, emotions, resistance – with kindness? How is it to meet what’s most unloved and apparently most unlovable in me with kindness?

That’s all that’s needed.

And yet, some other questions may at times be helpful. For instance, I may think that kindness is not here, or that it needs to be big.

Is it true kindness is not already here?

Is it true it needs to be big?

And if I wish to explore further…..

What happens when there is a closed heart? Right now, I find a closed mind. Identification. Defense. Something – a thought, an emotion, a memory – can become an enemy. Hardness. Tension. Knowing.

What happens when there is an open heart? There is a softness. Receptivity. An open mind. Curiosity.

And what about the belly?

With a closed heart, I find a knot in my belly. A lack of trust. Fear. Reactivity. Holding. Lashing out.

With an open heart, I find a softness in the belly. Nurturing. Receptive. Allowing anything to be as it is, and transform within this allowing and softness. Trust.

Note: I have had conversations with Todd and Berry recently where they both suggested they same thing, what’s needed now is a shift into kindness. And then YouTube recommended this video for me.

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