When I find a motive behind doing inquiry, I can take that to inquiry. I find it’s really there to enlighten me.
What are my wants, shoulds and needs for (a) my facilitator, (b) my client, and (c) for inquiry itself?
For my facilitator: I want A. to see me as insightful. I need A. to like me. I want A. to accept me as I am. I want A. to get something out of our time together. I want A. to feel comfortable. I don’t want her to see me as criticizing her. If I interrupt her, she won’t like me.
For my client: I want A. to like me. I want A. to see me as a good facilitator. If I interrupt her, she won’t like me. If I take charge of the process, she won’t like me.
For inquiry: I want inquiry to… make me feel good, make people like me, make my body healthy, get me money, give me that job, get me a good relationship. The Work doesn’t work. The Work doesn’t go deep enough. This thought is true so I can’t take it to inquiry.