The worst someone can see me as is…. inconsiderate (crude, unhelpful).
How is it best for me, others and the world if I am inconsiderate? What’s the gift in it?
For me. It makes me just like everyone else. It makes me human.
If I take in that I am inconsiderate (with specific examples, and also see the gifts in it), I can’t see myself as superior anymore, the stress around thinking others are inconsiderate (and shouldn’t be) falls away. This would be a huge relief for me.
I get to see that some people like me anyway, and want me in their life even if I am (in my, their mind) inconsiderate. This is quite a relief for me. I see that I don’t have to be perfect.
I get to see if there are any beliefs/fears behind it, and take it to inquiry to see what I find.
(Speaking my truth and being clear on what’s important to me may be seen as inconsiderate. An honest no may be seen as inconsiderate.)
For others. They get to see that I am just like anyone else. They are free from having to put me on a pedestal.
They may see that they like me anyway, and that others sides of our interaction makes up for it.
It may help some decide they would rather spend time with someone else. They find clarity of what they want in their life through it.
If they have inquiry, they get to see and question their own thoughts about it.
For the world. It helps the world if I or others find clarity on our thoughts about being inconsiderate. We become easier to be with, and it shows what’s possible.
I am just like anyone else. It frees the world from having to put me, or anyone else, on a pedestal. It’s a reminder that we all sometimes are inconsiderate, in someone’s view.
How am I inconsiderate? What are some specific examples?
I sometimes play music a bit louder than I think the neighbors may appreciate. (And complain about them if they do the same.)
I sometimes leaves certain tasks to others even if I think they may appreciate help.
I sometimes don’t answer emails the same day, even if I know the person would like a prompt reply.
I sometimes don’t contact friends and family as often as they may wish for.
I sometimes eat meat, even if I know it involves imprisonment/suffering for the animals, and it uses far more resources than other equally good foods. This is inconsiderate to the animals and future generations.
I sometimes fly even if it greatly increases my ecological footprint.
Inquiry is an invitation to find what’s more true than my initial assumptions and beliefs. What’s really here? What do I find if I am honest, take time, find specific examples? What happens when I let this work on me?
My starting point, in this case, is (a) that I am not inconsiderate (not very, not as much as others), and (b) being inconsiderate is bad, undesirable.
This can be balanced by including and exploring (a) that I am inconsiderate as well, as much as anyone else, and (b) the ways being inconsiderate is good, where I can find the genuine gifts in it.
This balances and equalizes the viewpoints, I find the genuine validity in each, and also see that none of them has much to do with reality. They are all ideas which may be helpful in a practical sense (or not), and placed on top of life by me.
the worst someone can say about me is, i am inconsiderate
how is it the best for me, others, the world if i am inconsiderate, what’s the gift in it?
It makes me just like everyone else. It makes me human.
If I take in that I am inconsiderate (with specific examples, and also see the gifts in it), I can’t see myself as superior anymore, the stress around thinking others are inconsiderate (and shouldn’t be) falls away
how am i inconsiderate?
It’s all about balancing out, finding what’s more true.
Starting point (a) I am not (very, as much as others) inconsiderate, (b) being inconsiderate is bad
So the balancing is to include/explore: (a) I am inconsiderate as well, as much as anyone else, and (b) finding the genuine gifts in being inconsiderate
Do it as meditation, take time with it, allowing it to sink in/work on me, finding simple, real, genuine examples