A complex person

 

I watched an interview with the actor who plays Milner in Foyle’s War, and he mentioned that Milner’s war experiences made him a complex person.

What makes us appear complex?

When I look at this, it seems that living from beliefs may make us appear complex. And the reverse is sometimes true as well. A life lived from clarity may appear surprising and complex.

How do beliefs create complexity? Beliefs are necessarily contradictory with each other, which adds one layer of complexity. Beliefs may also be in opposition to our wisdom, kindness, or inner guidance, and this adds another layer of complexity. In general, beliefs  may make us act in ways others don’t expect or understand.

In the case of Milner, I imagine he may believe:

It shouldn’t have happened. War is terrible. Death is terrible.

I lost my leg. I am not a full man. I won’t be able to do my job well.

People will judge me. They will see me as an invalid. They will pity me. They will talk about me behind my back.

My wife will leave me. I won’t find anyone else.

These thoughts and more, when lived as true, makes for a complex life and person.

A life lived from clarity may also appear complex, simply because our kindness is unhindered by the confines of beliefs. Such a life, although appearing wise and kind, doesn’t necessarily follow simple rules or expectations.

I can also find how the reverse is true.

When I believe certain thoughts, I have to live as if these are true. It’s very simple.

And when there is more clarity, this clarity – this kindness – is what’s lived. Again, it’s very simple.

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I watched an interview with the actor who plays Milner in Foyle’s War, and he mentioned that Milner’s war experiences had made him a complex person.

What makes for a complex person?

When I believe my thoughts, there is automatically complexity. Milner may have a series of beliefs about what happened to him. Some may be in opposition to each other, or appear incongruent with each other. And some may make him act in ways others don’t expect or understand. And all of that makes him appear complex.

I imagine he may believe:

It shouldn’t have happened. War is terrible. Death is terrible.

I lost my leg. I am not a full man. I won’t be able to do my job well.

People will judge me. They will see me as an invalid. They will pity me. They will talk about me behind my back.

My wife will leave me. I won’t find anyone else.

These thoughts and more, when lived as true, makes for a complex life and person.

Beliefs create complexity.

And the reverse may be true as well.

When there is more clarity and a life lived from this clarity, love is free to express itself outside of the boundaries of any particular thought. It doesn’t necessarily follow rules or the expectations of others, apart from appearing wise and kind. To someone who expect it to follow rules or expectations, it may appear befuddling and complex, while it’s really very simple.

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Byron Katie and others who have found more clarity than most may appear complex, simply because their life is more free from beliefs. They don’t necessarily live a life that’s consistent with simple thoughts or shoulds, or the expectations of others.

 

 

 

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