Inquiry: She is too pushy

 

She is too pushy.

Situation: When I was a client on the helpline for The Work.

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Is it true?

Yes.

Can you be certain it’s true?

No.

What happens, how do you react, when you have that belief?

I feel squashed, trapped.

I feel conflicted.

I feel caught between (a) feeling she is too invasive, and (b) thinking she is a senior facilitator and must know what she is doing.

I don’t take care of myself.

I make her wrong.

I decide I probably won’t want to be facilitated by her again.

Who would you be without that thought?

Answering the questions.

Speaking up if I feel pushed, if her comments don’t feel helpful, or if I want more space.

Interested in what comes up from the silence, in response to the questions.

Turnarounds

I am too pushy.

With myself, when I push myself to not say anything.

With her, in my mind, when I think she is too pushy.

She is holding back too much.

If she was more pushy, I would get to see my thoughts about it more clearly.

If she was more pushy, I would get to see my tendency to not speak up more clearly.

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