I can’t feel your pain. That’s not possible. If someone hits you and I believe that I “feel” it, I am projecting what that must feel like, and that is the pain I feel. I’m remembering the time when someone hit me, and I feel my own story. In reality, there’s no pain for me. There aren’t two of us in pain; there’s only one. Who would I be without my story? Pain-free, happy, and totally available if someone needs me.
– Byron Katie
I went to a TRE workshop last year where some of the psychologists / therapists talked about taking on their client’s pain, and having to protect themselves against it. To my relief (since he reflected my thoughts and experience!), D.B. cut through and said it’s all yours. It’s the same with thoughts about taking on someone’s “bad energy”. For me, this type of thought still sometimes comes up around tension. I think he/she has inner tension, it influences me/taints me/is transferred to me. And all that’s happening is that I create tension in me through being unclear on and believing those thoughts.
Here are some of my thoughts for later inquiry:
Psychologists should know better. They are ill informed. They are not skilled enough. They are not clear enough. They shouldn’t be allowed to work with clients.
He is in inner tension / struggle. He makes noise, and that means he is in inner struggle. Inner struggle is bad. His inner struggle taints me. His inner struggle is transferred to me. His inner struggle disturbs my peace. It’s my peace.