Old wounds surfacing, thoughts trying to help

 

I keep noticing how old wounds or primal fears surface, and how thoughts try to help.

They try to match these emotions onto a current situation (a trigger), future scenarios (fears about what may happen), or something in the past (an origin or cause).

They may also try to figure it all out, sort it out within thoughts.

Some of this may be quite helpful, at least in a limited sense. And it may also be a spinning of the wheels. And that too is innocent. It’s confused love.

If we are into inquiry, there is another option. Thoughts may be used to find situations that match the emotion, write a JYN from that situation, and take these thoughts to inquiry.

There is also another way, as Adyashanti points out and I keep discovering for myself. And that is to be still and allow the emotion its life, allow it to move through, discharge, perhaps reveal new layers and let these have their life.

And the two – inquiry and being still – go hand in hand. Inquiry helps me explore beliefs creating reactive emotions (fear, sadness, anger), beliefs about what they mean, and about being still and opening to the emotions. And being still allows the emotions their life and perhaps move through and reveal new layers.

Note: I was reminded of this after my last session with Barry. There has been a great deal of primal fears surfacing, along with a deep sense of hurt. My mind has previously come up with images from my early adult life and childhood that seem to match, and I have done some inquiry on those situations. This time, my mind came up with the image of a woman – living about 1500 years ago – who lost her husband and children. It’s helpful since it gave me a more extreme situation I could write a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet on and take to inquiry, and it also gives thoughts a bit of rest – there is an even more basic origin story now. At the same time, it’s just an image. And what’s equally helpful is to be still when the emotions surface and allow them their life.

Note 2: When I write about these things, I sometimes use a less precise language than what’s possible. For instance here, I wrote “old wounds” which is not true. The wounds are here now, and only a thought says they are old. Even the label “wound” is not true. And yet, something is conveyed with those words, and it’s perhaps good enough for this purpose. If “everything” is to be pointed out each time, each of these posts would be much longer than they are now.

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I keep noticing how old wounds or primal fears surface, and how thoughts try to be helpful.

They try to match these emotions onto a current situation (a trigger), future scenarios (fears about what may happen), or something in the past (an origin or cause).

They may also try to figure it all out, sort it out within thoughts.

And that too is innocent. It’s confused love.

As Adyashanti points out, and I have discovered for myself, what’s more helpful may be to be still and allow it it’s life, allow it to move through, discharge, perhaps reveal new layers and let these have their life.

If it keeps coming up, it may be helpful to identify beliefs behind the emotions (the wound, hurt) and inquire into these. And perhaps also thoughts/fears about being still, opening up to what’s here.

Note: I was reminded of this after my last session with Barry. There has been a great deal of primal fears surfacing, along with a deep sense of hurt. My mind has previously come up with images from my early adult life and childhood that seem to match, and I have done some inquiry on those situations. This time, my mind came up with the image of a woman – living about 1500 years ago – who lost her husband and children. It’s helpful since it gave me a more extreme situation I could write a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet on and take to inquiry, and it also gives thoughts a bit of rest – there is an even more basic origin story now. At the same time, it’s just an image. And what may be equally helpful is to be still when the emotions surface and allow them their life.

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