Someone better will come along.
Situation: An evening with a close female friend (EM) in my early twenties.
The last evening before going abroad to study.
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Is it true?
Can you be certain it’s true?
What happens, how do you react, when you believe that thought?
(a) I want to have a relationship now, I want to say.
(b) And also this thought about the future takes me away from what I want.
I treat her very politely, with some distance.
I am not real with her. I don’t share how I feel about her.
I see myself as above the situation, feel aloof.
My body feels a little numb, disconnected.
I feel sad. Isolated.
Who would you be without that thought?
I am honest with her.
I tell her how I feel about her.
I am open for a relationship now.
I see I don’t know anything about the future.
I am receptive to how I feel, what I want, now.
I listen to myself, what I really want.
Someone better will not come along
Someone better is always future, and I don’t know anything about the future.
There is nobody better here, or in my life.
I love her, feel comfortable with her, we are aligned in life interests, I am attracted to her, we are both available. I don’t know I will find that again.
Someone better is here
In my mind, I imagine someone better, so she is here competing with the flesh and blood woman in front of me. I chose an image over the woman in front of me I love.
My friend is better than I think, when I have the initial belief. She is here, available, there is mutual love, our lives are aligned.
No-one better will come along
That thought is all about the future, and the future is only imagined, not here.
When I let go of her, there is nobody else.
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