Three types of love:
Romantic love is often love mixed with identifications. This love is the third one described below, which is here whether we notice it or not. And when it’s mixed with identifications, it’s sometimes covered up by neediness, wounds, fear etc.
Love can be a feeling, and is fleeting as any other content of experience.
Love is also what’s here when Spirit recognizes itself as all there is. It’s the love of the left hand scratching the right hand when it itches. It’s what’s revealed when mind is less or not identified with images and thoughts, either temporarily (as a glimpse, and opening) or more stably (through clarity on the nature of illusion and reality). And this love is not dependent on feelings or state. This is “real” love, and it’s expressed as sincerely wishing the best for others and oneself, and living from that.