When I do something, or react a certain way, it’s not only because of habits, but also – or more so – because I see a value in it. I think I am getting something valuable out of it.
The solution is to thoroughly see through my stories, and find what’s more real.
For instance, when I go into drama, what do I perceive I get out of it? Which deficient self is triggered, and what do I find when I look for it? Which stories trigger the drama? What are my stories about the drama itself? (Juicy? Alive? Exciting?)
As I explore what’s really going on and see it more clearly, the attraction softens and may fall away.