If you love someone, set them free.
Or…. if you love someone, you set them free.
You naturally set them free.
When we care for someone, we want the best for them. We support them in what’s best for them, even if it may not be our preference. It may even be that they leave our life, even if we would like them to stay.
There is a big catch here. It requires that we are not caught in our own wounds and neediness. It requires that we are not trying to meet a sense of lack in ourselves through the other person. It requires that this sense of lack is reasonably healed in us.
How do I find healing for this part of me? For me, it’s the usual ways. Inquire into beliefs creating the sense of lack. See if I can find the lack, or the one having a lack. See if I can find the perceived threat. Meet it with kindness. Rest with it.
P.S. Sorry for the goofy 80s video! Even good songs can have less than amazing videos.
– love / caring – identifications = setting them free
– if we love someone, we set them free, we wish the best for them, support them in it
– requires that we are not hung up in neediness, empty holes filled by the person, that we have look at, found healing for these