When I do inquiry in groups, or facilitate others in inquiry, I get to see our shared dynamics.
I see that what I thought was (more or less) unique to me, and perhaps even shameful, is actually a shared dynamic. It’s common. Perhaps even universal.
The way it’s expressed is individual, to some extent, but the dynamic itself is common to most or all (?) of us.
That recognition takes the edge off it. I don’t have to add the “I am uniquely messed up” belief on top to whatever else is here. And that’s a relief.
One thing is to see it. Another is to take it in. And that may take time.
It may take seeing it and recognizing it over and over, for a while.