Welcome with the intention of having it go away

 

There is a common phase where we (a) recognize it doesn’t work to try to make something (a painful experience or part of us) go away, (b) shift our strategy to welcome it, find love for it, meet in in inquiry, and (c) do it with the intention of having it go away.

We basically say welcome, now go away.

No wonder it doesn’t work. We still want it to go away. And what we are trying to get rid of knows. It says I know what you are up do. It’s not going to work. 

It knows what we are trying to do. It’s not fooled. And the reason it knows is that it’s me. Whatever is here, is who and what I am.

So what’s the solution? It’s to include the wish for it to go away. To include it in the welcoming, the resting, the inquiry.

It’s to welcome the desire to have it go away. To see it’s already here. It’s already allowed.

It’s here to protect me. It comes from a deep concern for me. It comes from kindness. It comes from love. This recognition makes it easier for me to return the favor. To meet it with kindness. Meet it with love.

Rest with it. Notice. Allow. Rest with it in kind presence.

Inquire into it. What’s the belief behind it? What to do I find when I examine it? (The Work.) Can I find the perceived threat in the apparently threatening experience? (Living Inquiries.)

This help shift us into the next phase. A phase where we more genuinely welcome what’s here. Find love for it. Rest with it. Inquire into it, to see what’s really there.

It’s a phase where we recognize more genuinely that what’s here is OK. It really doesn’t have to go away.

First, there is a more conventional phase where we battle what’s here, where we try to make whatever seems uncomfortable go away. Then, we sneakily try to make it go away by welcoming it, allowing it, resting with it. And then, we see that it really doesn’t have to go away. We find peace with it, as it is. We more genuinely welcome it. Rest with it. Inquire into it to see what’s already here.

Note: Why does what we resist persist? It’s partly because we would only resist it when we take our stories about it as real and true, that it is how we perceive it. We create a scary perception of it, take that perception as real and true, and try to make it go away. Life is kinder than allowing that to work. Life wants us to go further. Life wants us to see what’s really there. Life wants us to recognize it as (a) already allowed, (b) already awareness, (c) already what we are, (d) already love, (e) already unfindable as what we initially take it to be (unfindable to us as anything other than images, words, sensations). When that happens, we see that we don’t need it to go away.

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Initial draft…..

There is a common phase where we (a) recognize it doesn’t work to try to make something (a painful experience or part of us) go away, (b) shift our strategy to welcome it, find love for it, meet in in inquiry, and (c) do it with the intention of having it go away.

It doesn’t work. We could say that the part of our experience, or ourselves, that we want to go away knows. It knows what we are trying to do. It’s not fooled. And the reason it knows is that it’s me. Whatever is here, is who and what I am.

So what’s the solution? It’s to include the intention to make it go away – and the fear behind it – in the welcoming, the resting, the inquiry.

It’s to meet our intention to have it go away in the same way. To include it. To welcome it.

See that it’s here to protect me. It comes from a deep concern for me. It comes from kindness. It comes from love. This recognition makes it easier for me to return the favor. To meet it with kindness. Meet it with love.

Rest with it. Notice. Allow. Rest with it in kind presence.

Inquire into it. What’s the belief behind it? What to do I find when I examine it? (The Work.) Can I find the perceived threat in the apparently threatening experience? (Living Inquiries.)

This help shift us into the next phase. One where we genuinely welcome what’s here. Find love for it. (Partly because we see it’s coming from caring, kindness, and love.) Rest with it, as it is. Inquire into it, to see what’s really there.

It’s a phase where we recognize more genuinely that what’s here is OK. It really doesn’t have to go away.

First, there is a more conventional phase where we battle what’s here, where we try to make whatever seems uncomfortable go away. Then, we sneakily try to make it go away by welcoming it, allowing it, resting with it. And then, we see that it really doesn’t have to go away. We find peace with it, as it is. We more genuinely welcome it. Rest with it. Inquire into it to see what’s already here.

 

– sneakily trying to make something go away
– love it, inquire into it, so it will go away
– often doesn’t work
– and doesn’t work bc what we want to go away is us (part of us), so it knows
– it knows what we are trying to do, and doesn’t allow it to happen
– life is kinder than that, life invites us to go one step further, to see more clearly what’s here
– life invites us to see that what’s here is OK….. it doesn’t have to go away

– it knows, bc it’s me

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