When I was in my teens and early twenties, I wanted “deep” conversations on topics I saw as big and important. (Integral approaches, systems theories, deep ecology, Jung, Steiner, Fritjof Capra, Buddhism, Taoism, different forms of meditation and prayer, how the different spiritual approaches compliment each other, the universe story, sustainability etc.)
Now, I am very happy with simple conversations about apparently small things.
There are several reasons for this shift.
Back then, I wanted and felt I needed to explore those topics more in depth. It was the right time for it.
Now, I am more content with the love and connection that’s there in small talk and I find it very beautiful. Now is the right time for this.
I also see that back then, there was a compulsion for me to explore those topics. I wanted to create a certain image for myself, I wanted to feel that I was doing something important, and I wanted to escape certain feelings. (I was aware of it then too, but chose to follow the compulsion. And I can’t say I regret it since it was rewarding, and benefits me still to some extent.)
- content of conversations
- teens/early twenties, wanted “deep” conversations on big/important topics
- now, very happy with simple conversations about daily things
- several reasons why – (a) see that the compulsion to talk about deep things had to do with image + wanting safety/escaping feelings, (b) recognize the love/connection there in small talk, very beautiful