Most of us have fear about meeting in ourselves something that seems scary.
It’s worth exploring both the physical sensations making up this fear, and also the story component.
Some stories I have found for myself:
I’ll see it’s true. I’ll see that the scary story – about myself, life – is true.
It will be overwhelming. Too much. I won’t be able to handle it.
It won’t work.
I won’t do it right. I don’t have what it takes to do it right. (The skills, experience, capacity etc.)
The facilitator won’t do it right. He/she don’t have what it takes to do it right.
It won’t go away even if it’s done right.
It’s not the right time. I am not in the right space.
It will get worse. Facing it will make it worse.
I’ll be judged…. by myself and/or the facilitator. It will trigger guilt and shame. I won’t be able to deal with this guilt and shame.
It’s often helpful to identify and explore these scary stories at some point, typically before entering what we have the scary story about.
The symptoms of this fear can come in the form of avoidance, resistance, restlessness, distraction, frustration, anger and more. And when we look a little closer, there may be a very understandable fear there that can be met and explored.
- Fear about meeting something scary in ourselves
- I’ll see it’s true
- It will be overwhelming, too much, I won’t be able to handle it (re-traumatizing)
- I won’t do it right, I don’t have the skills/ability/presence/capacity etc.
- It won’t work, it won’t go away even if I do it right
- It’s not the right time, I am not in the right space
- It will get stronger
- I’ll be judged by the facilitator/myself, it will trigger guilt, shame