This is another one of the things that parents, in the best case, tell their children.
If I enter a room or a group I’ll spend some time in, my mind tends to quickly sort people into “like” and “dislike” – at least as an initial map.
I have made it a practice to get to know those I have put in the “dislike” category. To get to know them a bit as humans and some of their back story.
It helps me to see them as humans rather than cardboard cutouts. It humanizes them in my mind. I may end up liking them or not, but that’s secondary.
And, of course, they are “me over there”. This is just me as this human being getting to know me as that human over there. And it reflects how I approach and relate to parts of myself and my own experience I dislike. Do I agree with the initial dislike and try to avoid it? Or do I know it’s worth getting to know it?
So if my mind tells itself “I don’t like that person” that’s a signal to get to know that person, at least a bit.
Note: This happend in the most recent Vortex Healing course I attended. My mind immediately disliked a person there, and just by circumstances I ended up talking with her for a while, seeing her as a real human being, and finding sympathy for her. She is still not someone I would actively pursue a friendship with but my experience of her has changed.
- getting to know those you dislike
- life 101
- if immediate dislike of someone, and in the same group, then seek them out, get to know them, get to know them as humans + back history
- may often change impression, see them as humans instead of cardboard cutouts
- may still not like but that’s secondary