Adyashanti: Don’t get mixed up with the “whys”

 

Don’t get mixed up with the “whys”, they won’t help you.

– Adyashanti

I agree that why questions are often not helpful if we look for answers that we take to be inherent in life or the divine. That’s futile.

On the other side, why questions can be helpful if I use them to find what I can make out of a situation. That’s why I personally find why questions very helpful.

And, of course, why questions can be used in an ordinary and practical way. Why, in an ordinary and conventional sense, did something happen.

For instance, I got CFS a few years ago.

Why did it happen, in a practical sense? I have had it earlier, and had it at a low grade for a long time before this happened. It was initially triggered by mononucleosis and this time by severe pneumonia. Life stress may have set the stage for the CFS return. The house I lived in had mold problems. And so on. It’s helpful to explore these since they may give clues for treatment and prevention.

Why did it happen, in the bigger picture? It came with several invitations for me. An invitation to learn to relax. To change my life situation. To be aware of and find freedom from previously strong identities (as productive, active, smart, energetic, on top of everything etc.). To have time for exploring and deepening in healing and awakening.

And if I had a different worldview, I could torment myself with why questions aimed at finding a final or absolute answer inherent in life or the divine itself. Some of these answers may be obviously and inherently stressful (God wanted to punish me). Some may appear helpful but are inherently stressful because I know I cannot know for certain. And I may also torment myself by spinning and trying to find the correct answer while – somewhere in me – knowing I cannot know for certain.

I agree that some why questions can be unhelpful, as Adya says. Although personally I find why questions very helpful. I find the practical why questions helpful. And I find the why questions that help me look for invitations in a situation helpful.

….
….
….

Initial notes…..

  • why questions
    • not so helpful if look for answers inherent in life, “out there” etc.
      • futile
      • if decide on something, often inherent stressful bc we know or suspect is not true, know we cannot know for certain
    • but why can be helpful if an invitation to see what can make out of it, look for invitations in it

I agree that why questions are often not helpful if we look for answers inherent in life, “out there” in the divine and so on. But I also have to say that for me, why questions are very helpful when I

….

I agree that why questions are often not helpful if we look for answers inherent in life, “out there” in the divine and so on. That’s futile. And if we tell ourselves we have the answer, it’s inherently stressful because somewhere in us we know we cannot know for certain.

Related posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *