Three guidelines in how I relate to issues with a charge

 

When I work with issues with a charge, whether it’s for myself or a client, I notice I often use three overarching guidelines. And when I talk about issues with a charge, I mean any issues with a charge, whether it’s an identification, a belief, a compulsion, or something else.

Here are the three guidelines or reminders.

Allowing. The context is allowing. Reality already allows what’s here so it makes sense for us to do the same. And resting with, feeling, and seeing what we have avoided is an important part of healing.

Intention to clear. When I have an intention to clear an issue, it helps me be more diligent, honest, and more thorough.

Reduce charge. In a pragmatic everyday sense, I am happy if the charge of an issue is reduced. It helps us relate to it differently, with more intention, clarity, and kindness.

During a session, I tend to adjust whether I emphasize the allowing or the clearing. If I am working on an issue that the person (I or a client) has avoided, it’s good to emphasize allowing and resting with it, especially initially and when we hit new aspects of it. If I notice the issue is relatively easy to rest with, and it doesn’t seem to move much, it can be helpful to emphasize the clearing as a guide to be more thorough and complete.

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Notes II….

  • three guidlines in working with issues with a charge
    • context
      • allowing
    • wholehearted
      • intention to clear
    • pragmatic
      • happy if reduced charge

 

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Notes….

  • reducing charge, wholehearted, allowing
    • when I work on my own emotional issues, I am aware of a few different aspects in how I relate to the session
      • reducing charge
        • in a pragmatic sense, I am more than happy when the charge is reduced
        • easier to relate to with intention, clarity, kindness, when comes up
      • wholehearted
        • in the session, helps to have the intention of having it clear completely
        • more wholehearted
        • guided by visualizing that outcome so more thorough, honest, diligent
      • allowing
        • the context, allow what’s here
        • meeting it, feeling it, welcome it, recognize it as awakeness itself
        • the context for the session, as it happens
        • allowing whatever intentions etc. are here as well
    • ….

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Initial notes….

  • a pragmatic aim: reducing the charge
    • reducing the charge in wounds, reactivity, emotional issues etc.
      • my aim when work on myself
      • bc is often all that’s needed, at least for now
      • when charge is reduced, can relate to differently
      • w more intention, clarity, kindness
      • of course
        • if clears then that’s welcome
        • and plan on going further later
        • but for now, is sufficient if reduced charge
  • ….

 

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Initial draft….

When I work on my own emotional issues, I am often happy to just reduce the charge. That’s all I need, at least for now. When the charge is reduced, I can relate to it differently, with more intention, clarity, and kindness. If it clears more completely, that’s welcome. And I may work on it more later, but for now, it’s sufficient if the charge is reduced.

At the same time, I notice that when I work on an issue with inquiry or Vortex Healing, it’s helpful to have the intention of it clearing completely. That seems to be very helpful in guiding the session. It helps me be more wholehearted. More fully invested.

So reducing the charge is a more than satisfying outcome, but

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Second draft….

When I work on an emotional issue for myself, I notice three helpful guidelines in how I relate to it.

Pragmatically, I am happy to see the charge in it reduced. That’s usually all I need. It helps me to relate to it differently and with more intention, clarity, and kindness.

In the session, my intention is to have it clear completely. That helps me be more wholehearted, thorough, honest, and diligent when I work on it.

And the context is allowing. What’s here is already allowed (by mind, awakeness, life), so it’s helpful to align with that allowing. It helps me meet it, feel it, see it, rest with it, relate to it with respect and kindness, and – eventually – find genuine appreciation and love for it. This is also a reminder that it’s OK if it stays, even if my personality would like it to change. Both the allowing and the very human wish for it to change are here and OK as they are.

So all three are here. Sometimes, one is more in the foreground, sometimes another. If I notice one is neglected, I may bring it in more intentionally. If I notice one seems more called for, I may bring that one in more strongly. For instance, if I enter an uncomfortable emotional issue I have been avoiding, I may emphasize the allowing, feeling, and seeing. I may just rest with it for a while. If I notice it’s easy to allow, but it doesn’t seem to move much, I may emphasize the intention to clear it and allow that to guide me. If I notice I want it to clear, I may remind myself that reducing the charge is sufficient in a pragmatic sense.

Note: When I say “emotional issues” I mean anything with a charge on it, whether it’s an identity, belief, compulsion, or something else.

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