Misophonia is a bit of a mystery. At least in the mainstream, and when it comes to explaining what causes it and how to best resolve it.
I have had it for as long as I can remember. Certain sounds – especially chewing and turning newspaper pages – create a good deal of discomfort in me. And, perhaps related, I also have sensitivity to certain forms of noise. Especially loud talking and machines, and especially machine sound I experience as aggressive.
It’s clearly selective. The sounds of children and animals are OK and even enjoyable. I can listen to animals eat loudly and be completely fine with it. I can listen to a loud waterfall or a storm and enjoy it very much. And there is a clue right there. Most likely, there is something about my thoughts about and associations with certain sounds that create the distress in me.
When I first encountered The Work about fifteen years ago, I used it on my reactivity to certain sounds. I found my thoughts about it (she is loud, she disrespectful, she is mindless, he is crude, he is inconsiderate, he takes her anger out through being noisy etc.), questioned these thoughts, and found what is more true for me. That helped. But it didn’t completely resolve it.
Now that I have Vortex Healing, I have begun exploring how to best resolve it through this (very efficient and thorough) healing modality. Since it’s a long-standing issue for me, I need to address it from several different angles to be more thorough.
The obvious is the surface examples of sound irritability. I am addressing specific themes and instances, for instance, chewing, newspaper rustling, loud talking, loud machines (lawn movers, construction near my house etc.). Addressing this takes care of the surface layer.
Then, I asked myself, what’s my earliest memory / memories of being annoyed or distressed by sound? Or – when I feel distressed by certain sounds today, what’s an early memory of feeling like that? The answer is, not surprisingly to me, the sound of my mother nagging my father. I remember this from early in on life, and it was quite distressing to me as a kid (and later). So this is another one to address as a theme and through specific instances.
And even deeper is not just the sound of my mother nagging my father, but my own emotional issue around her nagging my father. This is an even deeper root of my sound sensitivity. And it’s an issue that, most likely, influences me and my life in a lot more ways than just reactivity to certain sounds.
This is an example of how addressing underlying causes of something that, on the surface, can seem quite trivial, can bring healing to many areas of life, and sometimes in surprising ways. I assume that when I have resolved these issues in me in a deeper way, some of the ways this healing shows up in my life may be quite unexpected.
I’ll report on how this goes later, when I have worked on it a bit more and have had opportunity to test it in a variety of real life situations.
Is misophonia completely, or in all cases, rooted in early sound-related distress? I don’t know. I assume there may be a genetic predisposition, as there is with most things. And some epigenetics at work. And perhaps something else. But I am pretty sure that addressing it through, for instance, a combination of inquiry and energetic healing can be quite helpful and effective in most cases.
Note: When I use Vortex Healing on this, I use – among other things – denetworking (to denetwork the issue from related, intertwined issues), clearing the energetic blueprints, and generally clearing the conditioning around it.
Update: As I have explored this in smaller chunks over a few days, I notice another branch of what may be behind the misophonia. I have a reaction to younger men who speak loudly and with (false) bravado. As a teenager, I strongly disliked teenage boys who behaved with this false bravado. I had value-laden judgments about them. I didn’t want to be like them. I didn’t want to be around it. And even now, I notice a reaction in me to hearing loud people with this kind of (apparently false) bravado. So that’s another branch to explore and invite to resolve. And it’s an example of an issue that is directly related to my reactivity to certain sounds, and probably impacts my life in other areas as well. So I get double benefit from working on it, and it may help my life in people I don’t expect. (Also, I will probably be less of a bother to others in these situations.)
- resolving misophonia
- sound irritability – chewing, newspaper, loud people, machine noise etc.
- also related / likely source?
- sound of mother nagging father
- mother nagging father
- work on all of these
- specific instances of sound irritability / sensitivity
- sound of mother nagging father
- the emotional issue of mother nagging father
- need to approach from each of these angles to cover it more thoroughly
two topics: (a) misophonia, (b) addressing from multiple angles to do it more thoroughly
- addressing misophonia
- trace back
- exploring when first remember being distressed by sound
- distressed from hearing my mother nagging father, relatively common (childhood)
- distressed by the sound + angry at both (my mother for doing it, my father for not stopping it)
- how I have worked on it
- VH for the emotional issues behind it
- (a) mother nagging father, (b) sound of mother nagging father, (c) sound sensitivity in general, as it happens today
- good to address each of these angles, get to slightly different aspects of it
- The Work
- worksheet on specific instances w. mother/father + sound sensitivity later
- Living Inquiries
- explore the childhood situations
- look at the sense fields: thoughts, sensations etc.
- allow thoughts + sensations to separate, the charge reduces, eventually goes out
- VH for the emotional issues behind it
- trace back
Mother nagging father -> sound of mother nagging father (the intensity of it) -> current noise sensitivity
Since I was a kid, I have had misophonia – feeling uncomfortable or distressed by certain sounds. For me, this is particularly the sounds of loud eating and loud turning of newspaper pages. I have also been sensitive to loud sounds in general, including loud music, lawnmowers, people talking loudly etc. In practice, it means I tend to avoid loud concerts, movie theaters (although I sometimes go to mid-day showings since they tend to have fewer people), and I don’t particularly like traveling on planes, trains, and busses since it sometimes means being exposed to people being loud in different ways.
Since I was a kid, I have had misophonia – feeling uncomfortable or distressed by certain sounds. For me, this is particularly the sounds of noisy eating and chewing, and loud turning of newspaper pages. I have also been sensitive to loud sounds in general, including loud music, lawnmowers, people talking loudly etc. In practice, it means I tend to avoid certain situations involving loud sounds and avoiding, as much as I am able, being confined with groups of people who may be noisy (trains, buses, planes etc.)
I have developed strategies to deal with this (avoiding some situations, using headphones in other). But I wish to resolve it in a more thorough and satisfying way.
So how do I go about reducing or possibly resolving this hyper-sensitivity?
In the past, I have used inquiry and particularly The Work. I have done this on situations (and people) triggering this sensitivity in me. It definitely helps remove some of the mind’s reactivity to the situation. (And if I did it more thoroughly, perhaps all?)
I have also suspected that some of this hyper-sensitivity, or allergic-type reaction, comes from childhood experiences. When I ask myself what my earliest memories are of being bothered by sound, I see images of me hearing my mother nag my father. (What he did wrong, didn’t do, need to do etc.). It did bother me as a kid, and can well have contributed to an allergic-type reaction to certain sounds. So for that reason, and for general healing purposes, it makes sense to address this.
Over the last few days, I have taken it to inquiry (The Work), and also used Vortex Healing for it. When I use Vortex Healing on misophonia / related childhood experiences, I notice there is a continuum from addressing misophonia itself (and my reactivity to it) to the childhood experience (mother nagging), and there is also a middle ground where the two come together: being bothered and distressed hearing the sounds of my mother nagging. I have addressed each one with Vortex Healing (structures, denetworking, issue transformation etc.), especially focusing on the middle ground, the place where the two come together in a quite obvious way.
I may also explore the parts of this continuum with inquiry (The Work, Living Inquiries), and I plan on continuing using Vortex Healing for the different parts of the continuum and addressing it from slightly different angles and aspects. I may also do some therapeutic tremoring while keeping specific instances from each part of the continuum in mind.
I have written about these approaches in several other articles so won’t go into it in detail here. Although I can mention that The Work tends to help us see that what we thought was true isn’t (which is a relief and takes the stress out of thoughts). Living Inquiries separates thoughts from associated sensations, and we get to see how the sensations give charge to the thoughts and the thoughts give meaning to the sensations. When they are separated from each other, the charge goes out of the thoughts, and the meaning goes out of the sensations. And Vortex Healing tends to work on the energy side of the situation, allowing hangups, wounds, and trauma to resolve and heal.
In a more general sense, approaching this from the mind side (e.g. cognitive therapy, inquiry) and the body side (e.g. TRE, Vortex Healing) makes sense, and also addressing current triggering situations as well as earliest childhood memories of feeling a similar way.
I don’t want to make it sound too dramatic, but an ongoing stressful situation for a child is often experienced as traumatic and becomes a real trauma (developmental trauma). The situation I described above definitely became traumatic to me, precisely because it was ongoing, even if it would look relatively harmless to anyone seeing the situation at any one moment.
Note: It’s common to call misophonia a sensitivity, similar to food or light sensitivity. It makes it sound more innocuous. It can also be called an allergic reaction since the mind (and consequently body) over-reacts to a normally harmless stimuli. I tend to think of it as reactivity. And reactivity often has its roots in beliefs, identifications, wounds, and trauma.
Note 2: When I do questionnaire-based tests for misophonia, it comes out as a definite “yes”. I do wonder how frequently misophonia is rooted in certain type of childhood experiences, and to what extent it’s possible to reduce or resolve misophonia with inquiry, energy healing, and similar approaches. I suspect it’s quite treatable if we approach it in the right way, although it may differ from person to person.