When I worked with addiction clients (at the Kiloby Center), I noticed that it was relatively easy to see how willing, ready, and wholehearted the clients were about being sober, and that the more willing, sincere, wholehearted, and receptive they were, the more likely they were to succeed.
That’s how it is for any of us in any area of life, including healing emotional issues and changing our orientation to life (befriending).
So how do we arrive at this readiness? It seems that the main factor is recognizing – deeply, viscerally, through experience – that the pain of changing (and there is often some pain involved) is less than the pain of staying in the old pattern.
Is there a way to prepare the ground for readiness? As with so much, it comes through grace and on its own time. At the same time, there may be some ways to invite it in.
- when worked w addiction clients, was relatively easy to see how willing and ready and wholehearted the clients were about being sober
- and readiness is often recognizing, deeply, viscerally, from experience, that the pain of healing/changing/transforming is less than the pain of staying in the old patterns