Byron Katie: Pain is nothing to fear


Pain is nothing to fear; it’s something to understand.

– Byron Katie

I hesitate commenting on something already so clear, but will write a couple of things anyway.

A lot – or all? – of the discomfort of physical pain comes from our stories about it, and how we scare ourselves. It’s pain, is it true? What do I find when I examine it? Can I find actual pain in words, images and sensations? What’s the worst that can happen if I have physical pain? What do I find when I examine that further?

And the same with emotional pain. Is it really emotional pain? Can I find actual emotional pain in words, images or sensations?

Byron Katie: Pain is a projection


Pain is a total projection, and it prevents us from noticing that it’s all love.

– Byron Katie, paraphrased from a webcast

I see this for myself, and these days especially when I use the living inquiries.

When words, images and sensations combine into the appearance of pain, it’s experienced as painful, whether it’s emotional or physical pain.

Examining each of these separately, I see there is no threat in the words, in the images, or in the sensations. (And if there appear to be, I can – for instance – look for underlying images and ask if there is a threat there.) The stickiness of the idea or experience of “pain” is reduced or falls away.

There may still be words, images and sensations, and more of an allowing of these, and a noticing that they are already allowed. The sticky conglomerate of words, images and sensations called “pain” is not there anymore, or it’s faded and in the background.

I get to see that “pain” is a projection, and that what’s here is love.



Byron Katie: That would not leave room for the possibility that a Higher Force is moving you


It’s a purely egoic identity that would not leave room for the possibility that a Higher Force is moving you.

– Byron Katie

Said another way, identifications – and not noticing the identification, and that mind is also nonidentified – leaves less or little room for noticing the possibility that a higher force is moving me. And that includes identification, thoughts, choices, and my life in the world.

Byron Katie on pain


Go to that pain. Can you feel the feeling in your shoulder? So, that feeling is pain. Can u really know that it s true?

Well, I call it pain. 

Yes you do and lets go in again. Can you really know that that feeling what you feel is pain? Can you really know that? Maybe that’s what love feels like. Who knows?

– Byron Katie in dialog with a woman who has pain in her shoulder

Byron Katie: I am love, and as long as I seek it from you, I can’t know that


I am love, and as long as I seek it from you, I can’t know that.

– Byron Katie

When there is a belief in deficiency and having to get love, acceptance and approval from others, I cannot see it’s already here. It’s here to give to myself.

I also don’t see that I am that love, acceptance and approval, and can give myself to the image of me that may appear deficient.

Byron Katie: It just means that you can see things without the confusion of your inner struggle


People new to The Work often say to me, “But it would be disempowering to stop my argument with reality. If I simply accept reality, I’ll become passive. I may even lose the desire to act.” I answer them with a question: “Can you really know that that’s true?” Which is more empowering?—“I wish I hadn’t lost my job” or “I lost my job; what intelligent solutions can I find right now?”

The Work reveals that what you think shouldn’t have happened should have happened. It should have happened because it did happen, and no thinking in the world can change it. This doesn’t mean that you condone it or approve of it. It just means that you can see things without resistance and without the confusion of your inner struggle. No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don’t know how to stop.

I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid,  kind, and fearless.

– Byron Katie in The Work of Byron Katie: An Introduction

Byron Katie: Ultimately the body isn’t going to make it


Ultimately the body isn’t going to make it. This is good news- it’s over, forget it, let’s work with what we have. If this body-story were true, it would mean that no fat person could ever be self-realized, no one in a wheelchair, no one old or sick, no one who isn’t beautiful. This leaves out practically the whole human race! Almost no one has a chance for freedom under this theory. We’re all waiting until we get the body perfect to be peaceful. Can we just do it from here, now?
– Byron Katie

Byron Katie: I create all evil


I create all evil. What I am believing about you or myself is the only evil I’m ever going to experience.
– Byron Katie

How is this true for me? What do I find when I look?

First, what do I think of as evil? For me, it’s when life doesn’t go my way.

I see that the thought of evil is all mine, it’s a label created by my mind, and held as true (or not) by my mind. I cannot find “evil” outside of my own world of images. If I have an image of it outside of my world of images, that’s still my world of images.

I have also experienced that when I look more closely at my thoughts of evil or bad or wrong, I find that it’s not as it looked initially. I have a thought that it was evil (bad, wrong) that I got health problems, see how I don’t really know, the pain inherent in taking it as true, and examples of how the turnarounds are valid as well.

And I have experienced finding in myself what I see out there in the world and call evil. I fit the description too.