Emotional charge


I keep returning to this:

I often find I don’t believe a certain thought at a conscious level. I see it’s just a thought. I see the turnarounds and can find genuine examples for how each is as or more true.

And yet, there is still an emotional charge around the thought. I may even live, to some extent, as if it’s true.

And that shows me there is something left.

It’s still believed at a certain level. It may still be held in place by underlying and unexamined beliefs.

And that’s where the simple directions are helpful:

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Emotions and identity


I keep coming back to this one as well…

When emotions come up and I notice there is an emotional attachment there, I can ask myself:

What is the story that trigger this emotion? (Story, memory, scenario.)

Which identity is threatened by this story?

Which identity is inclusive of that story? Which identity fits with it?

And then shift into allowing that identity. Feel into it. Feel it in my body.

Staying with it. Allowing my self-image to reorganize and realign to include that identity.

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Emotions as invitation to let go of identifications


The friction between my stories of what should be and what is, is an invitation to let go of taking those stories as true. It is an invitation to let go of identification with those stories.

And since that friction creates emotions, those emotions come with the same invitation. An invitation to let go of identification with stories and identities.

Whatever they may be, and however subtle they may appear, emotions created from that friction is a very real invitation to let go of identification with identities. (Those emotions may be fear, anger, sadness, regret, hope, etc.)

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Asking an emotion how it views the world


Whenever there is tension, stress, a sense of something off, reactivity, a fixed view, defensiveness, contraction, a sense of separation, complaining, seeing something only in myself or in others and so on, it is a reminder that I am caught up in a belief.

Sometimes, it is easy to find the story I attach to as true. It may be quite familiar to me.

But there are also other ways to find beliefs. For instance, I can notice an emotion, ask it how it views the world, and find the beliefs that goes with the emotion in that way. (This one is mentioned by Adyashanti in The End of Your World, and is similar to facilitation emotions as  Mona Grayson talks about it, and one of the many ways of using Voice Dialog and the Big Mind process.)

And in either case, I can find underlying beliefs by asking questions such as why? or what is not OK about that? (Suggested by Mona Grayson.)

Beliefs and emotions


How are beliefs and reactive emotions connected?

It seems that it all starts with a belief.

There is identification with the story being a separate I, and then a me with a fleshed out and particular identity.

All this creates a series of shoulds. I should stay alive. My life should be supported. I should be or remain this and not that.

And when my stories of what is and what should be clashes, reactive emotions come up.

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Fascination with doomsday scenarios


It is always fascinating to me to hear what others are facilitated by, and then find it in myself. We went to a potluck tonight, and the topic – for a while – were different doomsday scenarios. Economic collapse. Collapse of the US empire. Ecological collapse. And so on.

How likely is it that disaster will strike at a collective level? What are the ways it may happen? What are the dynamics leading up to it? How may it unfold? How serious may it be? What can we do? How will it impact us? How can we prepare?

The first thing I find when I look at this for myself is that any emotional fascination (draw, attachment) I may have towards doomsday scenarios is proportional to the extent I resist certain emotions in daily life. If I resist experiencing fear, terror, dread, anger and so on in daily life, there is an emotional component to imagining and exploring doomsday scenarios, and also an emotional fascination with it – whether I seek it out or try to avoid it, or do both.

Likewise, if I allow, welcome and am with those emotions, in a kindhearted way, there is a release of the charge around them. They are welcomed, as they are, for what they are, even if they would stay forever. They are seen. Felt. Loved. And as the charge around them is released, the emotional draw and fascination with doomsday scenarios goes out as well.

What is left is more clarity. A choice to explore these scenarios or not, depending on what seems appropriate and useful in the situation. And a very practical approach if I chose to explore them. It boils down to what can I do, and how? And stays at the practical.

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