KL: i’d like to just tell you what i like about you


since we won’t have time to chat much, i’d like to just tell you what i like about you
would that be okay?
(i’ll give you a moment to prepare yourself if you want.  LOL)
i was starting to write it like a poem in my head
but…i’ll just share the simpler approach
that’ll be the theme for today.
i really appreciate your welcoming personality
when we connect, i feel a warm embrace like you really care
i like your touch…when we did Breema so many years ago
i sensed a presence that is palpable and it helps me find myself
i like your quirkiness
from the music you listen to, to the clothes you wear, to the myriad of personal growth offerings
you are unique and a true artist
i like your sensitivity though it can be hard on you at times, you are a model for the capacity of human sensitivity…what we could feel if we weren’t always distracted
i like your intuitive nature…the ability to tune into Wisdom and know what is needed…from healing people, to responding to their woes and worries
okay…i think there is more, but i need to stop there for today
I’m grateful you were born

A friend of mine just wrote me this on Skype since it was my birthday yesterday. I thought I would put it here so I can find it again later. Sometimes, in dark moments (which I have now and then, especially over the last few years), it’s good to be reminded.



I have been reminded of this recently:

Some folks are used to conversations that reinforce beliefs and velcro, including stressful beliefs.

Others tend to meet what’s here with love and gentle inquiry.

I notice both from myself, and see I sometimes slip into one or the other depending on who I am with. (Even if I slip into the former, I am aware of what’s happening and that it’s not comfortable, and I usually go into the second on my own afterwards.)

That’s why I am even more grateful for having friends in the second category.

It’s such a relief to have conversations about what’s going on with both of us, and taking time to meet unloved parts with love, and unquestioned stories with gentle curiosity and inquiry.

Thank you to KL, AH, CL, MET, SF and others.

Lessons from the Blue Zones: How to live longer and healthier lives


The four essentials:

1. Move Naturally – Make your home, community and workplace present you with natural ways to move. Focus on activities you love, like gardening, walking and playing with your family.

2. Right Outlook – Know and be able to articulate your sense of purpose, and ensure your day is punctuated with periods of calm.

3. Eat Wisely – Instead of groping from fad diet to fad diets, use time-honored strategies for eating 20% less at meals. Avoid meat and processed food and drink a couple of glasses of wine daily.

4. Belong to the Right Tribe – Surround yourself with the right people, make the effort to connect or reconnect with your religion and put loved ones first.

More info at Blue Zones.

The other side


I feel I should correct the one-sided ending of the previous post

The process of individuation, of becoming more fully, deeply, richly human, of bringing the soul into this life, and of awakening as what we already are, it is not really one that is likely to make us lonely, not even in a conventional way. In becoming more fully human, we also become more mature and more deeply ordinary. And this is exactly what most of us are looking for in our friends. If anything, it makes for easier, deeper, richer friendships, and more numerous as well if we are looking for that.

The process only becomes an obstacle if abstractions becomes more important than the lived life, if there are still strong shadows there, a strong belief in certain ideas, a strong attachment to certain identities and images. And if these are present, then it is only natural that others will shy away from it. It is valuable feedback to ourselves.