Love, power, masculinity


The word love can be used in two main ways. It can mean love in contrast to hate or indifference. And it can be used to mean finding love for the parts of us thoughts label hate and indifference, and any other emotion, image, thought, sensation – anything in our field of experience. The first one is quite precarious and dependent on circumstances. The other one is more stable and can be found independent of specific circumstances (apart from the circumstance of grace to find this love).

The same goes for a variety of other characteristics. For instance, power can mean power vs weakness or powerlessness. And it can mean the natural and simple “power” that comes from finding a deep love and understanding for both power and weakness/powerlessness in ourselves. And it’s similar for masculinity, and strength.

The second form of love and power comes naturally when there is a habitual meeting of what’s here – any aspect of the psyche, any experience – with curiosity. You are welcome here. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for your love for me. What’s your deepest desire? What would satisfy you forever? What are you really? 

The labels love and power doesn’t really fit since what it refers to is inclusive of both end of the polarities, and yet it also does fit as a lightly held label or question, an expression of curiosity of what this is and how it is experienced and lived through this life.

Note: This form of inquiry can be used for a wide range of concepts. For instance, pleasure can be taken as what’s opposite of pain (or boredom). And it can also be a deeper pleasure that includes pleasure and pain. A deeper pleasure that comes from finding genuine love for what’s here. A deeper pleasure from following my heart and guidance. And a yes can be seen as opposed to no, or it can be that Yes to what’s here – the Yes that’s already here – which includes the ordinary yes and no.

Note 2: If I want to find my strength, my real and deeper strength, I find it through meeting and finding a deep and genuine love for the weak and feeble parts of me, and the strong parts of me. And the same for power, masculinity, love, and just about anything else that’s a quality of who I am when there is a deep love for what’s here.