Byron Katie: Make friends with mediocrity, it’s the place of balance


Make friends with mediocrity. It’s the place of balance.

– Byron Katie

If we are sincere and honest with ourselves, we see that we are mediocre. Even if the world tells us we are excellent at something, we know that we really are somewhere in the middle. The scale stretches infinitely in both directions.

There are many upsides to seeing ourselves as mediocre. It leaves infinite room for continuing to explore, discover, and develop. There is no particular special identity to defend or uphold or live up to. It opens for a more real connection with others. It opens for receptivity and learning. Ultimately, it’s more real and aligned with reality.

There is a lot more to this. We cannot really take credit for anything since it’s all given to us – our talent, resources, skills, passion, interests, opportunities, and so on. It all comes from somewhere else. Even our choices come from somewhere else. It’s all given to us from life and the universe. From genetics, upbringing, society, culture, and the evolution of our species, this living planet, and the universe as a whole. And all of this is is really the expression of life, the universe, and existence. All that’s expressed through and as this human being is the local and temporary expression of life, the universe, and existence as a whole.

Friends with mediocrity


It was so wonderful when I really understood I was mediocre.
– Byron Katie

A few ways that I am mediocre:

(a) What I see in others and the wider world is also here. The stories I have about the wider world also fits me, and I can find specific examples of how they do. The images and thoughts I have about the world are my world, and they are – quite literally – me. The world is my mirror. In that sense, it’s all balanced and I am completely mediocre.

(b)  Everything in this field of experience is awakeness, presence, love. It’s all made up of the same. What a thought may label the world, others, me, I, it’s all appearances of awakeness, presence, love.

(c) In very much in life, I am mediocre in a very ordinary sense. There are innumerable things I am not very good at. And in that, I am just like anyone else.

(d) What I don’t know and am not familiar with is, most likely, infinitely much larger than what I do know and am familiar with. In that, I am also like anyone else.

(d) Whatever is familiar to me is mediocre, in my experience. I may be very skilled in something, and yet, through being skilled and familiar to it, it becomes mediocre to me. There is always further to go.

In each of these cases, it’s a huge relief to find how I am mediocre. It dissolves the appearance of separation. It humbles me in a very good way. It shows me there is further to go.