Stephen Porges: If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer.

 

If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer.

– Stephen Porges

This is so simple and so essential.

Since I am from Scandinavia, I feel that good social safety nets are crucial for helping people feel safer and through that reduce a lot of other individual, social, and even ecological problems. When we feel safer, we are able to broaden our circle of concern, keep the larger picture in mind, and act in a more sane and sensible way.

Finding safety in understanding

 

Finding safety in understanding is a big one for me.

That’s partly why I write here. It makes me feel I understand something, and it makes me feel safe and OK.

It’s true that some understanding can be helpful, in a practical sense. And yet, it can also be used to avoid feeling something, and look at apparently painful thoughts.

Right now, what would I have to feel if I didn’t write here? If I didn’t go to my understanding? Feel that.

What am I afraid would happen if I didn’t understand X?

I would be lost. Scared. Confused. Aimless. I wouldn’t know how to live my life. I wouldn’t know how to feel better. I would be miserable. Alone. In a dark hole.

Can you find X? Understanding? The one who understands? If you sift through images, words, sensations, can you find X?