Whatever stories are here – about experiences, insights, pointers etc. – are really questions.
And when I share – or have an impulse to share – these, I sometimes notice hesitation.
Here are some of the fears and beliefs behind this hesitation:
I am not qualified to share this. Others can do it better. What I say/write may put someone on a wrong track. It’s not an absolute truth, so there is no point sharing it. It’s better to be quiet. I am responsible for how it’s received. (What if what I write here is wrong, puts someone on the wrong track? I know everything here is provisional, stepping stones, so why write about it at all?)
When these beliefs come up, I can take each one to inquiry and see what I find. And I also sometimes remind myself of how I benefit from what others say or write.
Here are some of the ways I benefit from what others share:
(a) I sometimes feel connected, it’s a relief to see that others are on a similar path.
(b) I may get pointers that are valuable to me.
(c) I sometimes explore the topic by fleshing it out for myself, use different perspectives, take it a step further, etc.
(d) I sometimes go to the TAs of what’s been said and find examples of how these are as or more true.
(e) I sometimes imagine beliefs behind what’s said or written, find a situation where I had those thoughts, and do inquiry.
These and some related inquiries brings me back to myself and reminds me that what I share is for my own benefit. And since I do it for myself, I wish it to be as clear and sincere as possible.