Special

 

This is another universal pattern…

As long as there is a belief in the idea of “I”, placed on something finite or a segment of what is, then there is the double sense of being inferior and superior. We are superior to some, and to who we were at certain times in the past, and to what we can be. And we are inferior in the same way. In short, we have a sense of being special.

Special: Saniel Bonder helps me

For me, this comes up in in my reactions against anyone who try to present their insights or their approach as special. Saniel Bonder is someone who does this very well for me. He functions as a really good projection object for me in this area.

As a side note: it seems that his need is to be and be perceived as special, and my need is the exact opposite – to see myself and be seen as not special. But these are just two sides of the same coin. It is the same dynamic, just played out in its two polarities. And who knows what is going on for him, this is just my story – reflecting what I need to see. It is his business anyway.

Inquiry

He should not try to be someone special (and present his insights as special).

  1. Yes (that is what comes up for me)
  2. No (just an opinion, just my personal preferences right now)
  3. Something is triggered in me, quite strongly, when I see him as trying to present his insights as special. I experience disgust. Repulsion. Aversion. And there is a good deal of judgment. I see him as not very clear, and certainly not very mature. He comes across as a little kid trying to get attention, trying to get recognition – from himself and others. It seems immature, not seasoned. Something is not fully integrated in his views and life.

    At the same time, there is a sadness coming up as I see how I am separating myself from him and his insights in this way. I am actually separating myself from him, his insights, myself, the Wakin Down people in general, and anything valuable that I might learn from Waking Down and the Waking Down people. I tend to avoid everything relating to Saniel and Waking Down because of this.

  4. I would see what I see, and be OK with it. I would be more clear. More level-headed about him and Waking Down. More receptive to him, his insights, and the gifts in Waking Down and in the Waking Down people. More connected, with myself, him, Waking Down, and the Waking Down folks.
  5. (a) He should try to be someone special. (Yes. Because he is, as we all are. We are universally special, each one unique. And it is beautiful when we acknowledge that. When we can see that in ourselves and others. And he is particularly emphasizing that side of it. He can help me acknowledge that side, as I tend to emphasize the universality of it. He does his job beautifully. Even if it comes partly out of his own hangups, then that too is his job, and something he does very well.)

    (b) I shouldn’t try to be someone special. (Yes, I can deepen into the universality of what is in me, and also realize selflessness more thoroughly.)

    (c) I should try to be someone special. (Yes, this is the area I have tried to not see. I can see and appreciate all our our uniqeness, including my own. My own unique gifts and qualities. For my own benefit, and that of others as well.)

    (d) My thoughts shouldn’t try to be someone special. (Yes, that is true as well. They are universal, and are liberated in that realization. They are liberated from being taken personally.)

Special in unwanted ways

Whenever we believe in the thought “I” we feel special. We see ourselves as better and worse than others and ourselves – as we were and as we can be.

And for me, I have felt special in many unwanted ways in the past. During my awakening, beginning in the teens, there was certainly a sense of being special – with nobody to connect with around these thing, nobody who understood, nobody who shared the experiences and insights.

There was obviously no separation, only everything as consciousness and God. There was no separation, no separate I anywhere. At the same time, there was a deep loneliness at the human level from not finding anyone who seemed to live from the same experiences.

I could clearly see this sense of being special coming up, and the delusion in it, yet could not drop it as much as I wanted to do so. I could not figure out how to work through it completely.

Dark nigh as invitation to find myself as not special

The dark night phase was and is, in a certain way, an invitation to find myself as not special. To find myself as just ordinarily human and nothing more. Everything that could be a hook for any sense of being special went away, and left was just the ordinariness of being human – in a very pedestrian way.

I see that the awakening was not special – a similar awakening has been expressed by many, even at the same age as I was at its onset (sixteen). Similar insights abound in the spiritual literature. Similar integrations with modern views abound today, especially in the whole integral and transpersonal world. And many are far more clear than I. Far more integrated in their lives. Far more mature into it. Far more fluid in their daily lives. Far more ordinary. Far more special even. It is a great relief to see this.

And the dark night phase is an invitation to see how this human life is special, and to see this in a more relaxed and level-headed way. How it is unique as all human lives are unique.

The dark night phase is really an invitation to inquiry. To see all of this more clearly. The universality of it. That others have expressed everything in my life in a more developed and mature way. And that my life is unique as all human lives are unique.

None of these insights are new. They were all present from the beginning. But they are now lived in a different way from before. That is the main difference. They have gone through lived life in a different way.

Filters

This whole dynamic is in itself an example of how the universal is filtered in unique ways in each of our lives.

For me, the sense of being special was mostly unwanted so I push that away and seek the universal. For Saniel, the opposite may be the case. He may have felt that his unique insights were not appreciated by others, so he seeks recognition for his specialness. Of course, if he experiences a need for recognition by others, he is really seeking it from himself.

And this too, is all just a story. Just what I want to tell myself right now. I don’t know what is true for him.

Evolutionary Process?

 

Living here on the West Coast, it definitely seems that we are at the cusp of an evolutionary shift – more and more people seem to have different forms of life-transforming awakenings. They may not be full blown and stable awakenings into/as Big Mind, but a taste and an opening in that direction.

And there are so many techniques that really works…

Waking Down In Mutuality

Most people have their “second birth” within a year, from what I am told. For me, the shift happened only a couple of months after engaging in it more fully. There is an awakening to the Absolute, the nature of mind, and a rich, sensual, intimate sense of no separation with all phenomena. It seems permanent, and it is definitely unfolding. It is not anywhere near a full Enlightenment, but it is a taste – it is a little opening into it.
www.wakingdown.org

Byron Katie’s Inquiry Process

A simple process of inquiring into our beliefs, which makes it impossible to believe in them anymore. We are freed from thoughts and ideas and the confusion believing in them brings about, and can live from the nature of mind – from effortless spacious clarity, wisdom and compassion.
www.thework.org

Big Mind Process

An exploration process of the different ways the mind can manifest, on personal and transpersonal levels. It leads us into the transpersonal – Big Mind – view, and helps us see that it is always available. A little shift is enough. The Big Mind process can be used in many different ways, from healing on a personal level to connecting with and exploring Existence from the view of the Buddha Mind.
www.bigmind.org

Breema

A practice that takes the form of bodywork. It allows us to connect with Big Mind, in a very rich and full way.
www.breema.org

And among the many other techniques and approaches, here is one that I just heard about….

Deeksha

This seems quite similar to Waking Down in Mutuality, especially in terms of the shift – and the speed and way it occurs.
www.livinginjoy.org

This is definitely a cultural shift and transformation, and may even be an evolutionary shift for our species. Who knows. I am about to read Translucent Revolution which is about just this topic.

What this means is that the leading edge may consist of more people – at least in terms of the states they are dipped into if not the level they are consistently (yet) at – although the majority of humanity will still operate from red (egocentric), blue (absolutism) and orange (modernism) levels in Spiral Dynamics terms.